I don't think you are bragging about your daughter -- i have found that kids that appear to be "high needs" are often exceptionally bright and sensitive. I always joke that my friend's kids who sleep through the night without nursing just aren't smart enough to know any better. ha ha (It makes me feel better, anyway.)
And, if it helps, I only have one child and my house is a disaster, and I haven't ironed anything in years! I feel terribly overwhelmed a lot of the time, and that is with just one child, so I can only imagine what you are feeling. I remember those early months as being incredibly depleting, despite all of the joy. So, do anything you can think of to make your life easier. And don't beat yourself up for your negative feelings. My son nursed for an hour tonight before he went to sleep, and i wanted to pull out all of my hair!! So, you aren't alone. Blessings to you.