I have just joined this forum, because I would like some advice on this situation:
My daughter is two years old. She has been fully breastfed until eleven months old, then mixed fed due to me returning to work. Since I was by then pregnant again, I gradually reduced her breastfeeding to once a day. She was happy with that and would actually have often gone without, had I not offered. We were keen for her to continue breastfeeding, because we expected this to help her adjusting to the situation with the new baby.
When the baby arrived, my daughter continued with her daily breastfeed in the mornings. However, after a while she began to ask for breastfeeds during the day, which she had never done before. This may be due to feelings of insecurity or to the abundance of milk or a combination of both. Initially, I did not mind, because I had half expected it anyway. However, it has now got to the stage of her wanting to breastfeed six or seven times a day. This is something that I cannot physically cope with, in addition to the baby, who feeds at least every two hours, often more. Therefore, I am trying to restrict her feeds to twice a day, but she is not happy with that. I also feel increasingly uncomfortable when my daughter is breastfeeding, and often catch myself wishing she was finished.
Obviously, this is no time to wean her of the breast, since she wants it so much right now, but I am conscious that my feelings of resentment might eventually be transmitted to her. I would very much like her to breastfeed only once a day, in the morning, and certainly not away from home and in company. While on the one hand I say to myself that there are many things that I do not allow her to do whenever she wishes, I do on the other hand feel rather guilty about refusing her a breastfeed. I am rather unhappy with the current situation and would like to know what other people have done in similar circumstances.