I'm so bummed. I feel like bfing my 5 month old girls is not going well at all and it's driving me crazy, along with one of them. I have one "easy" baby and one more sensitive girl. We struggled with latch issues initially when tandem feeding and now I feed them individually a lot or use a different tandem position so that is ok, not great, but doable.
I had major oversupply for the first four months and my sensitive girl, Tessa, was in extreme pain from gassiness and too much foremilk. Her stools were always green and frothy and mucosy. So, at the 4 month growth spurt they also got colic and went from sleeping 12 hours at night (from 2 1/2 months to 4 months) to waking up usually about twice each at night. This led to my supply being regulated and them getting more equal amounts of milk during the whole day so the green poop and gassiness subsided for a bit but I was totally sleep deprived. Now they are back to sleeping about 10 hours at night but that first feed of the day I'm so full that they get a bunch of foremilk so now Tessa has the green poop and horrible gassiness again and she's miserable (and so is her mommy ). However, it's not oversupply all day because by the end of the day it is hard for them to get much milk (I don't feel the letdowns by the end of the day, their diapers are way less wet, and they are fussy after nursing and are on the breast constantly). So, I don't think I should correct for oversupply because then I won't have enough in the evening and I can't keep doing what we are doing because Tessa is in pain. I could wake her up in the night to feed her but it seems like there must be a better solution than waking her at 2 a.m. to feed and making me sleep deprived.
I had heard that some babies dealing with oversupply can benefit from meds they give to lactose intolerant people, since they are having the same effect from getting so much sugary foremilk. Anyone know about that?
At this point, part of me just wants to give them a bottle of formula and we'll all be happier. I really wanted to nurse them for a year but now I keep telling myself just make it to 6 months. They are preemies though and I want to get them through RSV season but I don't know how we are going to manage. All of these struggles with bfing have totally reduced the time and attention I have to give to my son and that really hurts. I feel like my life revolves entirely around bfing and it's just not the wonderful experience it was with my son, it's just work and I'm doing it because I know it's best for them, but it feels like everyone in my house is frustrated with it (except for DH). Any words of wisdom?