Hi, this is the first time I have posted and I really need help.
I'll try to give as much information as possible and I really hope that I haven't left it too late to successfully BF
I gave birth to my daughter on 09/23/2007 and she weighed 7lb 1oz. She only lost 5oz and put that back on in a few days. She has been putting on 4-5oz per week since.
I was determined to BF and gave her every feed she needed in hospital. When I got home I continued BFing and she had a growth spurt. I wasn't really aware of how this would affect the feeding and my 'support' network weren't very supportive! The problem lies in the fact that, just before my daughter was born, my husband and I moved back to his home town, and it's quite far from my mum. All of his family live close by but they all fed their children with formula milk. As soon as I encountered any sort of setback with BFing they started harping on about topping her up with formula. They said she obviously wasn't getting enough from me and I shouldn't feel bad because a lot of women can't do it. I persisted and said that I would continue feeding her myself, but after a few sleepless nights and the constant barrage of 'top her up, tope her up' I gave in and fed her with a few ounces of formula. She took it easily and this only fuelled my husbands decision that formula was best. I spoke to my health visitor and she said that I should take a few days to exclusively BF to get my supply going again.
I decided to do this as BFing was all I wanted for my little girl. Unfortunately I wasn't feeling too well and I said to my husband that I was going to have to stay in bed. I told him that he could bring our daughter to me every time she was showing the feeding signs and I would feed her in bed.
I fell asleep and woke up about 4 and a half hours later. Panicking, I went to my husband and asked him had she needed fed or what was wrong. He told me (and I know he had the best intentions) that he didn't want to wake me so he fed her 3oz of formula just after I fell asleep, and then another 4oz two hours later!! I was so angry!!
now we're at the stage were she gets fed via the breast and gets 'topped' up twice. Once in the afternoon, and once before bed. She goes down at 12am and sleeps until 8am.
I feel like I am not getting the support that I need and I feel like it's too late to successfully feed her exclusively.
I have started trying to pump after a feed from the same breast to encourage milk, but I would sit for 45mins and only get about 1/2 an ounce.
Am I better to persevere to get an ounce or should I pump for 15mins after each feed and just be happy with what I get??
I SOOOO want to get back on track and I have sorted out issues with my husband. I've told his family to keep out of it!!
Last night when I was feeding she was getting very distressed on each breast as if she wasn't getting any milk and I resorted to giving her formula. (I tried for an hour on each breast, massaging each one as she fed, before giving up) This hasn't happened before.
Also, I seem to struggle more with my left breast when feeding, it seems to be harder feed from, and never feels as 'full' as the right.
Please help, I just hope it's not too late and I feel like maybe I'm just being selfish wanting to BF. I don't want my daughter to suffer. I am so disheartened and ready to give up. But I don't want to!! I feel very alone and want to move back to my mums area as she breastfed me and would be so supportive. x x