i didn't know if i should title this "nursing in public" or not...because it's not really that...
i'm a first time mom. my son will be 4 weeks on tuesday (yeah!) and we have a great nursing relationship. I am EBF him - not pumping (i am a wahm) -- and i have a lot of flexibility around the house w/ him and my business.
anyhow, when i nurse him, sometimes he'll feed quickly and be done, but most of the time, i'll nurse him and he'll just want to take his time and fall asleep...sometimes he'll be nursing and sleep and it'll be 45 minutes w/ him on the boppy in my lap (while i'm at my desk in front of my laptop!) etc....i see no need to rush or to take him off --i mean, i'm not uncomfortable, and he and i both find it relaxing.
now, when i'm around family (my family -- i.e. grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins, etc. -- or my DH's family) -- it's a little trickier.
everyone wants to see him and hold him etc....
if they visit us at my house, i will excuse myself, go into my bedroom or office, nurse etc. and then come out when i'm ready.
but if i'm at my in law's house or another relative, i don't feel comfortable nursing in front of them (usually it's at least 10-15 family members getting together for weekly sunday dinners -- not just my in laws)....so i excuse myself and go to another room. but then i'll always feel like i have to rush him or not give him enough time - and he gets a little cranky and i feel anxious and rushed.
am i the only one who is in this situation? what do you guys do?
should i just have the attitude of hey, this is my baby, he's hungry, i'm going to give him all the time he wants and if you have to wait to hold him for 45 minutes, so be it? or do i need to kind of watch the clock, feed him, pull him off after 10-15 min. and then hand him over to impatient relatives?
i love my family and my husbands -- and no one is knocking on the door saying "are you done yet?" - but it's more of me feeling i need to rush...
please - someone tell me it's just all in my head and that i can just take my time!!
also, is it weird that i don't feel comfortable nursing in front of all of them? when it's just me and my sister or niece or etc...i'm cool. but when it's like 10 people.....lots of teenagers, kids, and adults etc...i don't know, it's overwhelming for me to breastfeed in front of them..and i'm not comfortable enough w/ those shawl/wraps to cover him....maybe soon, but not now.
i just feel like they think i'm a prude or something.
ok, sorry for the long post!