My ds is 4 months old today, and although he was always up every 2 hours at night for the first few months and has been a high-need baby, I have just been in heaven to have my first child and couldn't have been happier. Lately though, that feeling of being overjoyed all the time is being replaced with bitterness to my dh for "making" me in charge of everything with the baby (for example, if mommy doesn't cut his fingernails, no matter how often I ask dh to do it, they will never get done). My sister said the same thing about her dh, that whenever he watched their baby it was like he was doing her a favor, even though he's the dad. So I know its common that mothers are the primary caretakers. I guess I just feel overwhelmed (did I mention I'm in my 3rd year of a PhD program?) and isolated too. I have friends and people always want to see the baby, but I don't feel like being around people so I make excuses. My hubby and I fight most of the time, well, I yell at him all the time, for everything. Sometimes its deserved (baby is screaming and fussing and dh decides he doesn't want to hear it, so goes downstairs and plays with his guitar) and other times he tries to help but doesn't do things how I want, which isn't fair to him.
Anyhow, the bitterness with dh is a big stressor but also its discouraging having a fussy baby who hates snuggling and cries over every little thing. I'm just feeling really down lately. Since the baby was born my sister and I stopped talking (long story, she uses my mom for daycare and threatened my mother to not see her kids anymore if my mother helping me interfered with her childcare, and so my mother hardly ever came to help me even though I'm only 1 hour away). So I have no family around to help, maybe they visit 2x month.
Anyone go through similar things after first few "honeymoon" months ended? Thanks.