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    All day Kayleigh only had 2 wet diapers and her 2nd diaper had just a tiny bit of pee in it. When I changed her this morning, it felt like she had hardly pee'd during the night at all. I don't think this bf is doing much for her. Is it time to just throw in the towel and say "I tried."? She's 9 months old now and she's still a petite little girl and her 9 month appt. has me worried. Last time she was checked she barely gained any weight in 8 weeks and her Dr. said she'd see where she is at at her 9 month appt, I can tell she's gained maybe 1lb or so since then. I have even gone as far supplemented, just so she's getting some extra calories I am obviously not supplying. The solids never fill her up or help with her weight. The Fenugreek seems not to be helping me this time around. I am almost convinced I have dried up. No more letdowns or anything, it is depressing me. I have been under stress, Mara isn't doing well in school, struggling and her teachers say Mara just doesn't care about anything at school and doesn't try and will be held back in the 1st grade unless she starts doing better than what she is. Nick, I am under stress about his speech delay and getting nowhere with a speech therepist. Here at 9 months, Kayleigh isn't even trying to crawl, she won't even get on her knee's. I am seriously getting worried here. If I went through everything I had to go through with Nick about his same weight issues he had, this would be one very long post. At 3/12 he's 26lbs and not gaining. His weight slacked off when he was 6 months and he was 16lbs and stayed at 16lbs until he was like 18 months or 2 years, I can't think straight right now. Parent teacher conference has me a mess right now. I am just frustrated with everything and becomming depressed, I even cried talking to my mom today b/c of everything going on, I can't catch a break.
    Please no one suggest pumping, it does me no good, oatmeal isn't doing much either. I really, really, really want to bf until she is 18 months but at this rate I don't know if we will make it to 10 months. If her next weight check isn't good, then I don't know what I am going to do. Everyone is like "You have tried for 9 months and she's just not thriving off of it. You tried and thats all that counts." I don't want to throw in the towel so easily but my babies health and weight is #1 priority.

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    big to you.

    How premature was K born? Were there complications? Has any Dr. talked to you about premature birth (especially with health complications) being a risk factor for failure to thrive? There are many physical, emotional and environmental causes for FTT (and many defenitions of it too.)

    You should keep a journal for 3 days. Everything your LO eats, or how long she nurses.

    If you think your supply is low and you don't want to pump, feed more often. Nurse at night. This is when your body makes milk most efficiently and when babies nurse best (less distracted). Nurse every hour/2hours around the clock as if she was a newborn again. You absolutely CAN bring your supply up to give her the extra calories.

    It is SO hard when you're getting anxious and overwhelmed by the situation. BTDT. Don't be afraid to talk to a Dr. about an antidepressant if you think it would help you.

    If she is satisfied after nursing, I would say to hold off on solids for now. breastmilk has more calories than most solids. If you aren't willing to pump, you need her to be hungry enough to nurse extra to stimulate your milk production.

    Every child is a gift. And every moment is a gift. Let the Dr's or your DP worry about the charts for you. You love and nurture her.

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    Oh sweetie, Im so sorry you are going thru this

    From what I remember your son was FF (right?) and yet he was a small baby. Did the doctor say anything about your son's weight? Could it be that its just genetic?

    How many times does Kayleigh nurse a day and for how long? Does she seem content after nursing?

    I dont know what advise I can offer you. If I were you I would probably supplement but continue BF until my supply is up again. But thats me. Even if you dont think this is working out, maybe you dont have to stop BF altogether.

    If its any consolation, my DS didnt put on any weight for about 2.5mths.

    Hang in there sweetie. Dont be discouraged.

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    From http://www.emro.who.int/publications/emhj/0102/02.htm

    Premature birth (before 37 full weeks of gestation) leads to disturbance in the normal rate of growth. The less a premature infant weighs at birth, the more profound the growth disturbance will be [3]. In the majority of cases, growth in height is as much affected as growth in size from the very beginning [4]. During the first three years of life, prematures are more likely to have lower average height and weight than full-term ones of the same age unless an allowance is made for the length of gestation [5].

    Premature infants are at risk of developmental delay, and the actual developmental level corresponds to the degree of prematurity. Developmental delay in premature infants might be manifested as minor or major neurosensory deficit and impairment of intellectual or motor functions [6-8].
    Infant care

    Prematurely born infants should be closely observed. Their regular monitoring for growth and development using special charts offers a simple method for early detection of growth retardation and developmental delay. Such conditions should be dealt with appropriately and immediately by competent and experienced specialists.

    Health education

    Mothers of premature infants should be educated about the extreme vulnerability of their children, as well as their high nutritional requirements, so as to foster normal growth and development.

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    You guys are using a preemie growth chart like this one? http://www.kidsgrowth.com/resources/...ail.cfm?id=683

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    Thaks for the suggestions. I will try and pump at night when she is sleeping. I only supplement her at night. During the day she does not get filled up on it, she wants to be latched on all day long. She pushes and pulls, grunts, squeels and everything else. My son had health issues, he always projectile vomited, always sick with something, in the hospital quiet a bit. He was unhealthy where Kayleigh has been sick only 1 time. To a certain extent the Dr. does compare the 2 but Nick would refuse to eat when he was older, where Kayleigh loves to eat and she'd much rather nurse than eat solids. I don't give her a whole lot of solids. She's only happy when attached to the boob but she's not getting filled up b/c she's right back on there. She will nurse for over an hour and I let her in the evenings when hubby watchs the other 2 kids.
    I hope so, thanks a bunch. Vanne thanks for all the info, made a lot of sense to me.

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    I`m so sorry you are going through so many trials. Are you saying she is nursing a lot and not getting much? If she is willing to nurse that much she must be getting something. I`m wondering why she`s having so few wet diapers. How is the color of her urine? Is is dark? Does it smell at all in the morning?
    I don`t mean to scare you or anything b/c this might not be the case for you but my son had a urinary tract infection. He also had very few wet diapers and even the ones he had were not so wet. Just a possibility since you say she nurses quite a bit.
    Another suggestion. I know she is not interested in solids but is she willing to eat at all? If so, you can try high calorie foods like avocados to boost her weight a bit.
    You are in my prayers... don`t be discouraged.

    Mommy to a busy toddler

    "He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep in order to gain that which he cannot lose."
    Jim Elliot

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