My DS (14.5 mo) was recently diagnosed with allergies to cow milk / egg / tree nuts / sesame. After he turned 12 mo I has originally planned to transition DS over to cow milk while he's at preschool so I could pump wean (stop pumping at work) and continue to nurse DS when we are together. With DS allergies that's clearly not going to work
DS is also very very tiny (was 16 lbs 6 oz at 12 mo) and I think needs the calories from breastmilk so I have been terrified to cut back on DS breastmilk intake and have been continuing to pump and send EBM in sippy cups with him to day care. Right now he is drinking maybe 3 oz EBM at day care (I send in 6 oz). He seems to be cluster feeding in the mornings and evening as well as nursing 1 - 2 times overnight, and getting by ok without drinking much during the day. I try to send juicy fruits (grapes, etc) so he'll get some fluid intake from those foods.
Since DS isn't drinking very much EBM at day care, I'm very tempted to pump wean (for purely selfish reasons because I'm tired of pumping), use up the rest of my freezer stash of EBM for day care, and then transition DS over to drinking rice milk at day care. I'm having a hard time getting excited about pumping when DS is only drinking at most 3 oz EBM and the rest gets tossed.
The only resource I've seen on how much breastmilk is enough to meet a toddler's dietary needs for calcium and fat (such as how many nursing sessions) is the kellymom.com page on nutrition for nursing toddlers.
Our challenge is that DS can't eat ANY dairy, and is also allergic to many of the foods listed as good sources of calcium & fats (eggs, tree nuts, peanuts, all seeds) or doesn't like the food.
Thoughts and additional references / links on how much breastmilk is enough for a toddler's nutritional needs?