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    Default Re: Anyone in the process of switching bf to ff?

    So you are:
    1. very very tired
    2. pressured by DH and family
    3. frustrated by DD2's sleeping pattern/light sleeping

    FF will not make you less tired. You will have to go shopping for formula, try different formulas to find on that works for her, wash bottles (endlessly) and get up at night to mix a bottle.

    FF won't take away your feelings of pressure and stress - but it will change the source/reason for the stress and pressure. You will feel stressed that you "gave in," that your family was right, that you "failed," you'll doubt yourself just as you are now.

    FF won't change her sleeping. I've noticed that a lot of mom's say their baby is more fussy when on formula. So it could possibly be worse.

    Looking objectively, I don't think FF will help, but maybe some o these would help:

    Formula costs up to $200 per month. Obviously your mental health is worth that price. How about having a sitter come over for a couple hours once a week - even if while you are home and watch the babies for you. You can relax, go shopping... have some totally free time. Imagaine that! Maybe having a housekeeper come out would be more helpful for you?

    Do you have your RS yet? That might really help.

    Talk to a Dr. about post-partum depression. I was very moody, stressed, shopping or anything was impossible, and I was never leaving the house. DS was getting a bad deal as I didn't have enough energy to play with him. Just bf was about all I could manage. I didn't feel depressed.

    What do you really want to do? What would you want if you had no influence from DH and family?

    I gotta go I'll finish this later.


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    Default Re: Anyone in the process of switching bf to ff?

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    Default Re: Anyone in the process of switching bf to ff?

    Honestly I would wait and see how thing are after the end of this week. It is probably just a growth spurt and things should settle back down soon. I know right now it seems like there is no end in sight but I always tried to tough it out with the mantra "I can always buy formula but I might not get my supply back if I change my mind"

    You are so close to your 8 week goal it would be a shame to give in to the pressure of those around you. I wanted to give up around the same time you are at and I"m so glad we worked through it. PP had a lot of good points also about ff making her more irritable so you could make things worse. I second the idea of getting a sitter just once or twice a week to take the older kids. It will help your sanity and still be cheaper then formula. Good luck!

    Amy married to my bestfriend since 10/30/04

    Proud SAHM to DS born 2/17/07 and DD born 9/11/08 Both weaned together 11/2011
    Currently milk, peach, peanut and tree nut free. DD has outgrown her wheat, cheese, egg, garlic, and citrus allergies

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    Default Re: Anyone in the process of switching bf to ff?

    Quote Originally Posted by mom23cuties View Post
    Hi my friend I just do not know how you and other mom's do it. Work outstide the home and bf. I am to the point after my break down yesterday I am never leaving the house except for dr appt for the kids.
    Now, I am back on the fence thanks to one bad day.
    I would just like to say that I don't know how SAHM's do it. I have told my DH more than once that he is better cut out for being a SAHP than I am. I think I would lose my mind.
    So kudos to you and . We all have our days when we've had it "up to here."

    Quote Originally Posted by Vanne View Post
    So you are:
    1. very very tired
    2. pressured by DH and family
    3. frustrated by DD2's sleeping pattern/light sleeping

    FF will not make you less tired. You will have to go shopping for formula, try different formulas to find on that works for her, wash bottles (endlessly) and get up at night to mix a bottle.

    FF won't take away your feelings of pressure and stress - but it will change the source/reason for the stress and pressure. You will feel stressed that you "gave in," that your family was right, that you "failed," you'll doubt yourself just as you are now.

    FF won't change her sleeping. I've noticed that a lot of mom's say their baby is more fussy when on formula. So it could possibly be worse.

    Looking objectively, I don't think FF will help, but maybe some o these would help:

    Formula costs up to $200 per month. Obviously your mental health is worth that price. How about having a sitter come over for a couple hours once a week - even if while you are home and watch the babies for you. You can relax, go shopping... have some totally free time. Imagaine that! Maybe having a housekeeper come out would be more helpful for you?

    Do you have your RS yet? That might really help.

    Talk to a Dr. about post-partum depression. I was very moody, stressed, shopping or anything was impossible, and I was never leaving the house. DS was getting a bad deal as I didn't have enough energy to play with him. Just bf was about all I could manage. I didn't feel depressed.

    What do you really want to do? What would you want if you had no influence from DH and family?

    I gotta go I'll finish this later.

    I love the idea of spending the money you would be spending on formula to make your life easier!! Why not? That is a great idea.

    Quote Originally Posted by amymarie View Post
    Honestly I would wait and see how thing are after the end of this week. It is probably just a growth spurt and things should settle back down soon.
    Yes, one bad day is not the end of the world, even though it can feel that way. I've always felt with bf and really most "issues" with my kids, that waiting it out for a week or so to see if the problem resolves itself is a good strategy before trying to deal with a problem that may go away on its own.

    Best of luck to you! Now go hire that sitter and house-cleaner!

    Molly

    Loving mama to JP (DS, 1/03 ~ nursed 6 mos), EL (DD1, 9/05 ~ nursed 4 yrs), EJ (DD2, 3/08 ~ nursed 3 yrs 9 mos), and
    JM (DD3, 6/12 ~ currently nursing), all born naturally
    Devoted wife to SAHD P, my hero
    A few of my favorite things that I've discovered on the forum: co-sleeping, baby-wearing, tandem nursing, baby-led solids, cloth diapering, APing, selective vaccination...the list goes on

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    Ya'all are so right. I would just continue doing what I have been doing if I had not other pressures or stresses around me.

    I really do not know what I would do without ya'all.

    Dh came home for about 15min and saw I was nursing. I just looked at him and said, "Yes, I am still nursing." He said nothing. He has always been my cheerleader until last night. I was so upset at my behavior while we were out and the whole rotten day. when I tried talking to him he just brushed it off. I told him I have turned into a freak (not because of bf other reasons) and he said no and did not offer to sit down and work out a plan.

    I know I still have not excepted my life as a mom of three and still finding it hard to juggle. My mil took dd1 for the day Saturday and it was not less work just no one fighting or taking toys from ds. It was just ds and dd2 and it was great. If not for my dd1 bahaviors and I needing to get my stick out and get her back in line things would be easier.

    I do agree the getting formula washing bottles...is a pain. I was suppose to let dh feed dd2 one night but the idea of taking a then crying newborn downstairs to mix ff or warm bm was not appealing to me. Plus, the risk of waking the other two NOT WORTH IT.

    I am waiting on my rings to fix my rs and then pray she will like it. Plus, it will be nicer than the front pack when I get dumb (brave) enough to go outside the house.

    10 MORE DAYS UNTIL my next goal. I can I have picked my bottle of wine and my restaurant for us as a family to go celebrate my 8wks. I even have my next goals set up for after 8wks.

    Thank you for not judging me. I know the choice is mine not dh, moms, mil...anyone's. I just need the boost. Plus, you are right the money we would spend would really make a great room when we kick her out of our room. Dh had heartburn when I told him how much the stuff would cost and then I reminded him how much we have saved because I bf.
    Becky ~ 33 Dh ~ 37 (my little geek of geeks)
    Dd1 ~ Brittney 5yrs aka Bunny
    Ds ~ Xander 3yrs aka Xaxu
    Dd2 ~ Bailie 1yr aka Dede

    Still going 14months later.

    1yr goal and save $2200 average.

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    Default Re: Anyone in the process of switching bf to ff?

    Quote Originally Posted by mom23cuties View Post
    I have no supply issues may hind & fore milk issues not too sure but she is growing and gaining so I am not too worried I guess.
    If you think you may have foremilk/hindmilk imbalance that could be why she's so fussy. If she's getting too much foremilk the lactose can overwhelm her bowels and cause discomfort. I had this same problem w/ my ds. Maybe look into that as a cause of the fussiness?

    Also, my ds nurses about as often as your dd. About every hour to two hours for anywhere from 3min to 30min. Only you and your hubby know what's best for your family! Good luck! HTH.
    Nikki

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    Still 'ing and loving life! We cloth!

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    Quote Originally Posted by nms327 View Post
    Also, my ds nurses about as often as your dd. About every hour to two hours for anywhere from 3min to 30min. Only you and your hubby know what's best for your family! Good luck! HTH.
    wow almost six months later and still feeds like a newborn. man oh man i hope i get my rings in soon.
    Becky ~ 33 Dh ~ 37 (my little geek of geeks)
    Dd1 ~ Brittney 5yrs aka Bunny
    Ds ~ Xander 3yrs aka Xaxu
    Dd2 ~ Bailie 1yr aka Dede

    Still going 14months later.

    1yr goal and save $2200 average.

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    Default Re: Anyone in the process of switching bf to ff?

    I have read about foremilk-hindmilk imbalance but never really a way to fix it other than block feeding which I am doing for OALD. I guess I will see how much she weights when she visits the ped on thursday. it was suppose to be friday but I had not car, so I got it postponed.

    I am guessing if she puts just enough weight then she is doing fine. I just know she fussies alot, along with hiccups, and gass. Her colic hours is 6pm until about 8pm sometimes 5pm - 730pm weird I know.
    Becky ~ 33 Dh ~ 37 (my little geek of geeks)
    Dd1 ~ Brittney 5yrs aka Bunny
    Ds ~ Xander 3yrs aka Xaxu
    Dd2 ~ Bailie 1yr aka Dede

    Still going 14months later.

    1yr goal and save $2200 average.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mom23cuties View Post
    wow almost six months later and still feeds like a newborn. man oh man i hope i get my rings in soon.
    Not quite. Sorry, I think I made it sound worse than it really is. I don't want you to think your dd will continue like this. Ds mostly nurses for between 3 to 7 mins. When he nurses for up to 30 mins it when I'm putting him down to a nap or bed. If we're out and about he'll go like every 2 or 3 hrs cause he's diastracted. Mosly I think he nurses so often for comfort and he knows it's there.

    Sorry again if I worried you.
    Nikki

    Wife to my best friend and mommy to our sweet little man born 4/07!

    Still 'ing and loving life! We cloth!

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    Default Re: Anyone in the process of switching bf to ff?

    Okay, I was really thinking about ending at 6months...LOL However, if you ask dd1 she said I have to stop when her sister gets teeth. Dd1 is very worried about dd2 biting mommy's breasts.
    Becky ~ 33 Dh ~ 37 (my little geek of geeks)
    Dd1 ~ Brittney 5yrs aka Bunny
    Ds ~ Xander 3yrs aka Xaxu
    Dd2 ~ Bailie 1yr aka Dede

    Still going 14months later.

    1yr goal and save $2200 average.

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