Re: Getting baby on a schedule - please help!
I think the best way to get your baby on a nighttime schedule is to develop a routine! We've had the same routine with my DS for a long time and he's been sleeping through the night since about 2 MO most nights. We also co-sleep.
The thing is you have to watch for the baby's clues and we start the routine when we start to see the slightest sign that he's getting tired at night. Things such as fussiness, rubbing eyes, repeated nursing (kind'a like tanking up!), or extreme hyper-ness are all tired signs.
Our routine currently starts at 7:30 PM but it used to be much later when we thought that keeping a baby up late will make him sleep in longer, HA!
Bathtime given by daddy
Baby massage (putting on of eczema cream)
Change into pajamas
Cuddle time with daddy
Lay down with mommy and I nurse him
He always falls asleep within 5 minutes and I cuddle him for about 5-10 extra minutes then I can leave the room and he's sleeping.
He sometimes fusses one more time where I have to go in and pat his back, lay down for another few minutes but it's usually less than 5 minutes.
Our entire bedtime routine is about 30 minutes and then we're free to have the rest of the evenings to ourselves! I love it.
And no we never forced the sleeping through the night thing on him nor would I ever let him lay in the bed screaming, I always respond immediately if he wakes back up. However, now he trusts me and sometimes even when he wakes back up he can fall back asleep on his own.
So yes I think 'routine' is important so everyone knows what to expect! But you have to be ready for the little curve balls they throw at you and the routine must change or adapt to your baby.