I'm unsure on where to start. I love my son. He's my first child. He still nurses often and at night as well. I have no problem with him nursing during the day, but I'm tired of nightnursing a toddler. From what I've gleaned, maybe I should hold on a bit more and he could outgrow it soon. However, I'm also planning on trying to get pregnant in August.
I'm aware that nine months are an eternity in the toddler or preschooler's lives, but it's been a year and a half that I've been waiting for him to nightwean. I guess besides support, I would like to know the following:
- is it likely for a three-year-old to stop nursing when mom becomes pregnant?
- More importantly, night weaning?
- is tandem nursing extremely taxing on the body?
- when baby is born, I'm concerned that a nightnursing preschooler may squash the newborn -- yikes!
Some extra information. He's a very picky eater and only eats certain foods and sometimes he hardly eats at all (however, he always nurses). I can't count how many times a day he nurses. At night, in a span of 9 p.m. to 9 a.m., typically he'll nurse at least four times.
I'm tired already, and I'm not even pregnant! What gets me tired is the fact that he comes to lie on top of me (I sleep on my back) to access the other breast. Although he's not heavy for his age, he always wakes me up and sometimes, depending how he's lying down, I have trouble breathing and have to move him. Other times I can't sleep because he's fiddling with the other nipple. As a result, I'm tired much of the time.
To add to my concern, I have low blood pressure (which is in general a good thing), that makes me more tired easier than the average woman.
My first pregnancy I had asymptomatic (no pain, no usual symptoms) kidney disease where I had to stay in the hospital for ten days. I almost died from anemia when I was five months pregnant with him. I was exhausted. Now, my doctor had told me I didn't need to worry, that I could get pregnant again and that it was a freak incident. Each pregnancy is different. Plus, I'd be able to watch for it this time.
But with all this, I would like to conserve my strength and have my second pregnancy go as smoothly as possible. I don't know if I can do this with a preschooler nursing at night. I'm slender and possess a fast metabolism as well, which makes me gain weight slowly.
Any information, commisseration, personal experiences, etc. would be appreciated!