My daughter Jillian turned 2 in March, and I am AP all the way and want to let her wean on her own time. I'm also a special education teacher, working with teenagers with emotional/behavioral problems, and I haven't slept a full night in over 2 years. I'm tired, and I really have a love-hate relationship with nursing. I don't want to wean completely, I just don't want her to still nurse so OFTEN!!!
We've developed some "bad" - I know, not really bad, just a little lazy, lol - and she's a big comfort-nurser, like she wants to sit there & nurse long after the time she'd usually be done just to nurse during her favorite show. I've been trying to show her other ways we can bond, like cuddling, hugs, playing, etc., and verbally expressing this to her - "We don't have to have nunnies, you can just sit on Mommy's lap & we'll watch JoJo." I'm not consistent though, and I don't push the issue, if she refuses to be distracted by other things I'll let her nurse. Partly because I figure she must need it, and partly because I'm so tired! She's extremely "strong willed" or "high needs" or whatever you want to call it too.
Nights have been freaking unbearable lately though - we nurse to sleep in her bed and she keeps wanting to get up & do stuff, telling me, "I be back Mama" (LOL), but it irritates me cuz I feel like if I'm willing to still nurse the child to sleep she should go to sleep! She wakes a ton during the night so she ends up in bed w/me, either in my room w/DH or just her & me in the spare room. I'm actually wondering if the last of the 2 yr molars are coming through. And she lays down on a cot & goes to sleep on her own at daycare, but MUST have "nunnies" at home, which is also annoying at times, I read about sleep associations & stuff but it's not like she doesn't know how to go to sleep any other way!
I guess I need advice on how to reduce the intensity somewhat? I try the distraction, substitution, don't offer/don't refuse, and it works sometimes and not at other times. On weekends when we're home together all day she'll nurse in the morning, for her nap, after nap, around 4pm or so, and then before bed. I don't want to force her to nurse completely, but I'd really love to get it down to once or twice a day.
I'd also like to get her to sleep without it, but the couple times I made DH put her down, she came & got into bed with me (and no doubt helped herself) and I didn't even realize she was there til I woke in the morning - so what's the point of making her go down in the first place without it, kwim?
I'll be out of school in another month and I don't want to go back to spending half the day in the chair nursing, trying to get her to sleep, whatever! That is just soooooo frustrating! Should I night wean? Day wean? How? I guess I just expected her to at least show signs of slowing down by now!!!