My son, Alex, is 18 days old and doesn't seem to want to breastfeed. He's my first child, born at 38 weeks via planned c-section (I had blood pressure problems and gestational diabetes). We've been seeing a LC and have tried several different things, including a device that gives him formula from a tube while on the breast. Nothing has worked too well. Apparantly, some of the problem is my supply - I can pump 1-2 oz every 2 hours, but he wants at least 3 oz every 2 hrs. I'm taking blessed thistle and fenugreek, drinking nothing but water, and eating oatmeal every day to encourage supply.
The main problem, per our LC, is that Alex is a lazy nurser. He'll latch on for a couple of minutes, then lets go and starts screaming. Once he starts crying, he resists all attempts to put him back on. Every now and then he'll also clamp down on my nipple and shake his head back and forth before crying - he does this w/ the bottle, too. The few times he's nursed he seems to still be hungry afterwards (crying, rooting, sucking his hands) and will eat 2-3 oz of formula from a bottle.
His weight is good - he was 20" and 7 lb 15 oz at birth, dropped down to 7lbs 6 oz, and is currently 8 lbs 10 oz, 21" long. He had some issues w/ jaundice and was vomiting a lot his first day in the hospital, but seems to be fine now.
I'm currently using a rented Medela Lactina to pump 8-10 times per day and giving him what I pump in a bottle. I'm also using a nipple shield to try to nurse him, although the LC says there's nothing wrong w/ my nipples. He's eating about half BM and half formula at this point, down from 75% BM and 25% formula last week (he's started getting hungrier and my supply has stayed the same).
I'm at the end of my rope, emotionally. I really want him to breastfeed, but I'm exhausted from either pumping or trying to latch him on 24/7. I haven't gotten more than 2-3 hours of sleep at a stretch since he was born. I've thought of just pumping and feeding him from a bottle, but I'm worried that my supply won't be enough for him. OTOH, I feel guilty for even thinking of going to all formula, since BM is supposed to be so much better.
The LC thinks we have a 50/50 chance of getting him totally on the breast and says it's basically up to him at this point. My mother, on the other hand, is vehemently pro-BF. She berates me for ever giving him a bottle and says I shouldn't feed him at all unless he's at the breast. She also thinks I'm giving up too easily and that there's nothing to breastfeeding (she exclusively BF all three of us kids). I know she means well, but she's not helping. My husband is also pro-BF, but says it's my decision.
I don't know what to do. If anybody has any support to offer, I'd really appreciate it. Sorry for going on so long.