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Thread: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

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    Default I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    Hello, I'm new here and need support.
    My 4 week old baby has had latching problems since day one. According to the lactation specialist, my nipples are too short so she recommended using a nipple shield. I've been expressing milk and feeding him, but somehow just last week he figured it out and started to breastfeed. (with the shield on) Then just yesterday, he started crying and fussing and stopped breast feeding so I'm back to feeding him with a bottle. Furthermore, we've been topping him off with some formula since I am not producing enough milk (roughly 2oz total per 20 min of pumping).
    I think he's getting confused between my nipple and bottle nipple and that frustrates him too much. (I'm even using Second Nature bottle so he has to suck to get milk out) What am I supposed to do? I can't just stop feeding him with a bottle or else he'll starve, but he doesn't seem to be able to go back and forth between the bottle and my nipple.
    Breastfeeding has been a major stress factor and I dread it every time. No matter how optimistic I try to be, every time I try to latch him on, he screams, kicks, punches me and I end up just pumping so I can feed him afterwards. I am so stressed out and so ready to quit breastfeeding.

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    I am so sorry you're having such a hard time! I don't have advice, but wanted to let you know that there were days I felt the same way--dreading each feeding because it was so hard. Whatever decision you make, you've given him a great start.

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    dont give up it will get better...if u have to bottle feed do it...what i did was id nurse my lo and if she seemed frustrated and still hungry id give a bottle...i used the natural latch by platex and it made it easier for her to do both the nipple and bottle...stressing makes it harder on ur supply..and if it seems ike ur bottle feeding more right now its ok just keep putting him to latch

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    I had this same problem with my first child and I did end up quitting breastfeeding. She would get so upset and cry and hit and kick. Now looking back I know it was because I was tense and sore and tired, she sensed that and knew I really didn't want to be doing this. I know relaxing and being positive is hard but I feel it does affect how a feeding will go. Have you tried maybe lying down and doing breathing techniques while he is nursing? Sorry I can't be of more help to you.

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    Have you considered trying an SNS to see if your LO would be more interested in nursing if he was guaranteed to get some milk, or perhaps cup feeding to eliminate the nipple confusion? I agree with the pp about the Playtex NaturaLatch nipples if you're going to bottlefeed. I know they made the difference for DD and I. It took us 10 weeks to get the hang of it but we eventually got there, and I'm so glad we stuck it out. You will be too. Hang in there! This is the hard part, but it does get better!

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    How would you feel about trying an alternative method for supplements? You could use a cup, spoon, or even a syringe.

    Here's some great information about getting baby back to the breast:
    http://www.kellymom.com/bf/concerns/...to-breast.html

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    You may have already tried this, buy try using different positions to feed in. My son HATED the football hold (which is what the nurse told me to use when I was in the hospital) and it wasn't until I got home and read some BF info and tried other positions that he settled down and stopped throwing the fits when eating. Personally, lying down was the most comfortable for him, and may help you to relax a little when feeding him. The PP are right, these little guys can sense a whole lot about mom's mood. Try all different variations to see what makes you most comfortable. The more he sucks the more you will produce, so try taking the edge off his hunger with a syringe of pumped milk or formula, and then latching him on to get your supply on. A day spent in bed cuddling may make a world of difference!

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    Thanks for all the replies. So last night and most of today, I've been able to trick him before I breastfed by letting him suck on my pinky finger. He fusses a little but it's been successful, except for the last feeding. He latched on one side, but after I burped and switched, he was too hungry to even try latching. He screamed, punched, kicked for a good 15 min and even my pinky trick didn't work on him anymore.. so I had to supplement with formula (I didn't have any express milk ready).
    I will try Platex NaturaLatch, once I order it online. Will it fit more bottles? I have Medela bottles, will it fit those? One question though. I know there's slow flow, fast flow and tri cut flow. What is tri-cut flow??
    Another question - does anyone's baby shake their head vigoursly trying to latch on? My baby has been doing that since day one. He looks like a hungry piranah or something, but because he shakes his head while trying to latch, it's so difficult to even get him 'on target' to my nipple. This is with me still holding his head... Can't get him to latch on correctly, nipple shield flies off, it's a big mess!! LOL

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    Stick w/the slow nipple for your LO. Tri-cut is for fruit juices or thicker liquids 6m+. Fast is for 3-6m. I just went through this whole bottle nipple thing & it was crazy.
    As for the hungry piranah...LO is probably a bobble head b/c their neck muscles are weak. My LO "hen pecked" around the nipple until I finally just pushed her on firmly & held her there. It gets easier as the LO gets bigger.

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    Default Re: I need help! So ready to quit breastfeeding

    [ I've been able to trick him before I breastfed by letting him suck on my pinky finger. [/QUOTE]

    I've had to "trick" my LO by giving her the bottle for a min & then switching to the breast. It took a few feedings but she's back on the boob.

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