Nights are driving me nuts. My boy is 3 1/2 months old. I went back to work four weeks ago and started cosleeping three weeks ago because I was feeling awful (tired and irritable beyond acceptable levels) every time I'd get up to nurse at night. We finally mastered side-lying nursing and that's been very helpful, but my son is so unpredictable at night that it's really not helping my irritability, impatience, and anxiety. I'm so grateful that we can usually get him to go to sleep at a reasonable bedtime, but I never know from night to night how often he's going to wake and want to eat. Some nights he'll want one feeding during the night and others it's three. I'm so desperate for a solution even though I fear there is none because there is nothing we haven't tried.
Another issue...DH is a SAHD and he is having trouble getting the little dude to nap well during the day...apparently he only really wants to sleep when mom is attached. It seems like no matter what we try, daytime naps don't last more than half an hour, and sometimes it takes that long just to get him to calm down and go to sleep. It just doesn't seem right that we're still having all these struggles.
Despite all evidence to the contrary, I'm convinced my baby should be able to get through the night without eating every two hours. Sometimes when he wakes at night he's not actually hungry and some patting on the back and/or a pacifier does the trick. Other times nothing but the boob will chill him out. A baby who always needs the boob to sleep without a fight is a problem when I'm gone for ten hours a day five days a week.
I feel like I've heard all the suggestions for dealing with this already and I just don't know what to do!