At 14 months, my boy was still waking 2-3 times a night to nurse. although we co-sleep and I always went back to sleep after nursing, I was getting a bit tired of the routine. I wanted 8 hours of straight sleep. Eventually I want my bed back, but that's another story....
It seemed hard to find much specific advice on how to night wean. Someone on this site recommended the Dr. Jay Gordon method (http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp), but no one seemed to have a lot of first hand experience with it. so I'm going to share my experience, and hopefully it will help some other mom.
To summarize, Dr. Gordon tells you to pick 7 hours where you really want to sleep. I picked 10:00pm-5:00am. You can nurse on demand up to that time and afterwards. So on Night 1, my boy nursed to sleep as usual, but then woke up at 12:00 expecting his first midnight snack. The method tells you to go ahead and nurse, but keep it short and put them down awake. My son was not happy about this. In fact, he screamed for 50 minutes straight. It was perhaps the most difficult 50 minutes of my life. He wouldn't let me comfort him or hold him. He just thrashed around the bed to express his anger. He was furious. Surprisingly, he didn't wake my daughter. He finally went to sleep clutching both of my hands to his chest. I felt like the worst mom in the world. I almost gave in and nursed him, but I was determined to see it through. He slept through the rest of the night, nursed again at 6:00am and didn't seem to hold the nighttime experience against me the next day.
Day 2, he awoke twice to nurse, but cried for only 10 minutes, and the cries were only whiny cries. He fell asleep clutching my hand.
Day 3, he awoke only once and cried for less than 5 minutes.
Day 4-6 you don't night nurse at all, but I really didn't even have to go to the rest of the plan because he has been sleeping through the night. Hooray!! Occasionally he will wake up, but he puts himself back to sleep. It is wonderful. I had forgotten how nice 8 hours of sleep feels. I don't think I had gotten that much sleep in a row for nearly two years!!
If you don't like to hear your baby cry, I wouldn't recommend this method. Personally, I liked the Gordon plan because it didn't make me feel like an awful person for wanting to sleep through the night. If I had taught my boy how to fall asleep without nursing, I wouldn't have had to go through all of this, but hindsight is 20/20.......
So Dr. Jay Gordon's method worked for us. We're all getting a good night's sleep, and for that I am most thankful.
Now if I can just get my boy into his crib, so that my husband and I don't end up squished at opposite ends of the bed while my boy hogs the rest!!