I am the mother of an 11 month old boy and I work full time outside the home. Bf’ing came easy to us from the beginning and we have had no real problems other than a bout of mastitis/thrush when he was about 12 weeks old and a little nursing strike when he was 9 months old. In the last 11 months I have had the most incredible support from friends and family and have never dealt with the typical criticisms that I read about on this forum.
As I approach ds’s first birthday, I have thought a lot about weaning and extended nursing. I know that there are many benefits to nursing a toddler, but I am just plain tired of bf’ing. I know that makes me sound like a terrible mother, but I’m just being honest. I am soooooo sick of pumping and I want my body back. I want to be able to have the occasional girl’s night out or go to a yoga class without having to wait until ds has nursed and gone to bed. My plan is to try and pump wean around one year and get him to a point fairly quickly where he is nursing only in the morning and at night. Then I want to start the “don’t offer, don’t refuse” method of weaning and I would love to have him completely weaned by 18 months.
The problem I am encountering now is pressure from friends and family NOT to start weaning ds when he turns one year. This pressure is coming from people that I never imagined would be pressuring me. Most of the pressure is coming from friends and family that do not work full time and, surprisingly, from a couple of people that ff their children. I feel like it has been a huge accomplishment to have bf for a year while working full time, but I am starting to feel like that is just not enough for some people. Any ideas or tips on how to respond?