I might be reading this wrong, and what I am about to say might also be a "duhhhh", but with that said.... With my first dd I was told to be very careful about overstimulation, because that would upset her. I mention the overstimulation only because you said "playing with her for more than an hour". Perhaps it's overstimulation, too, that causes her to be upset when DH or others are holding her? Just a thought....Originally Posted by heatherama
And, my first DD would not take a pacifier when others tried to force one on her, and I am glad, because it was totally against my wishes, even though several people tried to get me to use one. I had a great pediatrician who also taught me some tricks to get her to self-soothe when I absolutely could not be the one to soothe her. And, I, too, made myself available as much as possible, because I knew she needed her Momma.
I am 37 weeks pregnant with my 2nd DD (c-section scheduled for 5/4), and I plan to to exclusively breastfeed this one, too. My first DD was with my first husband; this child is with my 2nd DH. So, I have a whole new set of in-laws to train! LOL
As a mother, I have learned, you just have to follow your "gut" about things. You are the mother!