Hi may name is Laurie, and I am mom to my 8 day old Gwynne. After a completely natural birth, with no complications, Gwynne came into the world full term, vigorous (apgars 9,9), and ready to nurse. She was put on my chest immediately, and didn't leave for the first hour, and she latched. SInce then, I have had several problems, and do have a lactation consultant helping now, but as she is away for several days, I turn to you wonderful ladies for help. I was wondering if you caould answer these questions for me:
1) Even though Gwynne seemed to be latching alright, she started to lose weight (11% loss by day four) and become jaundiced. So I was advised by the nurse to supplement her, and to feed her more often. So I finger fed her breast milk using first a dropper, and then a tube, which she took to fine. Her weight is coming back rapidly, and here jaundice is gone by day eight. The problem is, it is literally impossible to get her to feed every three hours. Sure, I am able to get her awake, but she will absolutely refuse to eat if she's not ready (will actually clamp her mouth shut, and she's strong for a newborn!), or will lazily suck my finger for over an hour, just to get 1 oz! She can easily go four or more hours despite my best efforts. Yet usually by the end of the day, she will have consumed the amount expected for her size. Has anyone ever heard of a newborn going this long between feedings and it not be a concern if she's gaining, peeing and pooping well? I am in tears right now, as I have unsuccessfully tried to get her to feed for 45 minutes, (both at breast with nipple shield, and with finger feeding), and she barely has taken in 1/4 oz! I am taking a break right now, and will try again later.
2) It seems like thaere are several challenges we are trying to overcome. I have an large, one flat, one inverted nipple, and Gwynne only seems to suck hard if I stick my finger right where the hard/soft palate meet. So needless to say, my nipples don't stimulate sucking. So the LC suggested a nipple shield, which seems to help some, but her suck is still so lazy, she will suck for two hours, and only consume 1 oz! Moreover, I can barely feel her sucking, so I know it's mostly coming from the expressed milk (which I have plety of, thankfully!). Another problem is that Gwynne sucks in ther lower lip to sooth. That, combined with a slightly recessed chin, makes it very difficult to get her to latch correctly, the few times she even decides to open her mouth! Do you think it's possible to get her to latch properly, and to somehow improve her suck strength, despite these challenges? Will this possibly improve as she matures? Have I forever ruined my chances of breastfeeding by fingerfeeding? (I thought it would be better than a bottle, but my lc says that since both methods teach the wrong type of sucking movements, one isn't really better than the other, except that finger feeding is slow, more like breastfeeding)
Please help me with any ideas you may have- I had to exclusively pump for my first dd for 14 months, and I don't think I could do it again!