FWIW, my dd weaned verrrrry gradually. For the last year or so, "nursing" meant for about 10 seconds once every 3 months! I kept wondering if she was weaned, then she'd ask again. She did finally wean completely after her brother arrived.
I know my kids are well on their way to weaning when they're not very interested in nursing even when they are ill.
I'm glad you two have reconnected so wonderfully! Weaning is bittersweet, but at least when the child takes the lead, you know he/she is truly ready.