Ah, the ups and downs. Yesterday she barely napped at all but still slept great at night. Today she snoozed all morning, just waking up from time to time to make sure I was still holding her. Of course, I was a big dummy and spent a few hours running around with her this afternoon, so now she's overtired and cranky. One step forward, two steps back, and guess whose fault it is!
You are all right, though. I need to keep readjusting my expectations and letting go of my need to have structure. Just go with the flow, and this too shall pass. Must keep reminding myself to just let go and enjoy my little girl. Thanks, all!