I feel like I might have written a similar post when my baby was a couple of weeks old but I'm not sure...now he is six weeks old and everything seems blurry. I've heard that babies normally have a fussy time in the evening, but for like 2 hours every night my baby is more than fussy...he is hysterical! This normally occurs sometime between 5-9, but it has occured more than once a day on occassion and has occured earlier as well. I feed him on demand, but sometimes it's still hard for me to determine if he is just hungry or tired....I'm starting to think this "hysterical time" is because of both.
Tonight I fed him around 5pm but he only ate for a couple of minutes and wouldn't eat anymore...he was fussy for a while, but not too bad...then around 6pm his fussiness started to escalate so I thought that he was probably just sleepy, but because he started sucking on his hand I thought I might try to offer him the breast again to see if he might not have gotten full off of the 5pm feeding. He always takes the breast at first no matter what, which makes it even harder to tell if he's hungry. He started sucking and and then started crying...I didn't give up right away and kept offering, but that just made it worse, so I thought...okay he must be really sleepy. I tried to put him to sleep and it worked, but then he woke up 15 minutes later bc I tried to put him down in his crib. At this point everything started all over again...started sucking on breast and then screaming like crazy. I've heard that there is either less milk in the evening or the flow is slower, but with my OALD I can see that the slowness might not be problem...when he's in a good mood, he handles it well and has learned to mostly adjust to the OALD. HOwever, when mostly in the evenings when he gets really upset, NOTHING can console him for like 2 hours....sometimes only an hour....before he falls asleep. I don't know if this means that he was sleepy in the first place or frustrated with the breastfeedng (for some reason that I'm not aware of) and just got so tired of screaming that he fell asleep hungry.
When this happen I feel so horrible, because my baby starts screaming hysterically to the point that he starts chocking a little bit before he calms down. I don't know what to do in this situation besides try to console him which doesn't work! I'm feeling so depressed. I try soooooo hard to do everything right and make my baby happy, but I feel like I am depriving him of either sleep or food and I'm not sure of which. If I gave up bf I would feel even worse, but I feel so bad right now bc I could be neglecting him of food...even though he won't take it. I heard not to supplement during this time bc it will lower my supply for the evening, but what am I supposed to do?!!!!!!!!! I can't just let him scream every night for 2 hours!
I was supposed to attend my first LLL meeting today and I completely forgot about it until the time had already passed...so now I have to wait until next month! But I can't...I need help now! What do I do....I feel soooo alone. And I feel like I'm not doing the right thing.