I'm wondering how other families deal with this. Getting my twins to nurse was a challenge, but now, at 14-1/2 months, our nursing sessions are the highlight of my day. However, I also feel like I'm allowing myself to become socially isolated because of it.
I nurse and then pump every morning, go to work (f/t), play with the kids when I get home, eat, and then it's soon time to nurse and put the twins to bed. There have been occasions when I've had a meeting or gone to a concert and I've not nursed at night, but I always feel guilty about it. I've stopped going to my book club and don't go to twins club meetings any more, because they start close to the twins' bedtime. I've never spent much time with girlfriends anyway, but the few relationships I used to have have suffered (dissolved is more like it) from my lack of presence. We have an older (special needs) child, who I get no time with if I go out in the evening. Making matters worse, DH just doesn't demonstrate the level of patience with the twins that he does with our older child. (Incidentally, he does not support my still nursing the twins either, though I think he's given up thinking that that opinion will make a difference in my behavior.)
How do you deal with this? I tell myself that the twins won't nurse forever, so I need to make the most of this precious time, and I dearly love the closeness I feel when we snuggle and nurse. Like I said, it's my favourite part of the day. On the other hand, I know that in a selfish way I am discontented with the situation and feeling that I'm tethered to my house when not at work. Really a catch 22.