I hope someone can help me out here.
I have two girls, the eldest will be 4 yrs in August and the baby is 10 months. I am very easy going about tandeming, but DD1 is getting really out of hand. She has always loved her booby, and I mean really loves her booby, and I don't really want to wean her, but I could do with her cutting down a bit. Right now we have a flexible rule that says she can nurse first thing in the morning when she joins us in our bed and last thing as she is going to sleep. This rule is "broken" if she is unwell or has hurt herself and needs to nurse for comfort etc.
She has been cutting her last two molars and has been waking in the night around 2am, she joins us in our bed (we co-slept until she she was two and stopped coming through in the wee small hours) and asks for booby, I remind her that she doesn't have booby in the night now, and she gets cross and makes a load of noise and wakes the baby. I would be happy to nurse her at this time but I have found that if I do she wants it all night and as she is a lazy pre-schooler with plenty of teeth this gets uncomfortable as her latch slips in her sleep and she grazes me, also I need to turn over to nurse the baby who still wakes for a feed around 3am. She often asks to nurse at random times during the day. She is a pre-school three days a week (whilst I am at work), so is home with me 4 days a week, and she seems to ask to nurse when she is bored or just wanting my attention.
Obviously I am not willing to just abruptly wean her, it goes against everything I believe in, and it would be horribley unfair for her to see DD2 nursing all day and not be allowed any herself, but I really need to find a way of cutting things down with her, as the current situation is physically and emotionally draining me.