mummy abuse

[Becks]

I've really had enough of nursing my 15m old daughter.
Does anyone else get kicked, hair pulled, pinched and/or scratched whilst nursing? This Easter holiday has been particularly bad. Feeling like giving up BF, but feel very sad just thinking about it. . . How can I stop this behaviour?

[11girl]

LOL! anyone else been reading the thread about BFing being CHILD abuse?
I shouldn't laugh, my LO is not there (yet)

[@llli*aidens.mommy]

I have had times recently where he has hit me and once when he bit me and then laughed and tried it again.

I immediately removed the latch and put him down while sternly saying "no hitting" or "no biting" He looked shocked as that had never happened before. It was tough not to smile or chuckle when he pouted out his lower lip and proceeded to have a cute little tantrum on the floor at my feet. Once he calmed down he asked to come back up and continued to nurse again. This was about a month ago, and has not happened since. (Not saying it won't again, but it seemed to do the trick)

Good luck!

[Becks]

That is similar to the way I dealt with my daughter when she started biting me, but that was months ago. Maybe I'll have to try it again.

[awnja]

Yes. DOn't act mad.. that's too interesting and entertaining. Just stop nursing. That's a very honest response. That hurt and now I don't want to nurse you. My dd would cry and cry when I'd unlatch her, put her down and walk away. About a minute later I'd pick her up and give her a second chance. If she did again, I'd stop again. That was about when I stopped nursing her in public much too because she started to insist on utilizing both sides plus the belly and collar bone... I decided to pick my battles and just target behavior that hurt or just felt icky - like gently twiddling with her fingernails. If it was just obnoxious but I could live with it in private, I let it go. I instead stressed my need for privacy and so sometimes she could nurse in public if she could keep mommy covered.

[Becks]

Hi All
Thanks for the input. I'm feeling much better now and her behaviour has improved now that we are back to "normal" life. I think the long easter holiday was just too exciting for her, (too much play-time with dada!!)

[Juju&Livi's mom]

My DD abuses me on a regular basis! Not in a mean or even intentional way, but she is soooo active while nursing! If I can even get her to stop moving long enough to eat, she routinely kicks, scratches, pulls at my shirt and bra, etc etc etc. Most of the time I just try to take a deep breath and relax (easier said than done!) She pops off, gets down, then immediately wants back up and on again, and so we go through the cycle over and over again! It is frustrating, but I take it day by day, and here we are almost 16 months later...How, I don't know!!! In our case, though, it is not a discipline issue per se, more of a personality issue. I hope things get better for you!

[skyqueen1969]

I get abused and my son is only 8 1/2 months old. Glad to know I"m not the only one. He pulls my hair all the time and pinches my face and scratches me. Lots of fun.

Thanks for sharing that.

Karen