What age is that and why? When did you come to that decision and what led you to it?
I had no BF'ing support ... my goal was 6 months because that's what my Dr. said was the basic recommendation -- then it became 12 months (who knows why) -- then, when I passed that I figured WHY STOP? So, in the end, nope, I just let kiddo figure out when she wanted to stop
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Leila Maribelle self-weaned at 4 years old....
I wanted to nurse my first son for at least 2 years, but I weaned early due to pregnancy. I weaned him at 20 months, because it was extremely painful and it was really affecting my attitude. With my second son I definitly want to nurse for at least 2 years as well and I have no plans to get pregnant right now so it will probably happen. I think for me the upper limit is 3 or 3 and a half. My 3 year old still asks to nurse occassionally and we "pretend" if he is having a bad day so nursing a child his age is not out of the question, but much older than that and I would feel like I was nursing a child, not a baby. My second son is not much of a comfort nurser so I am guessing that it won't really be an issue for us.
I had hoped to nurse for a year... that was my ultimate goal. Then, a year came and went and we were still comfortably nursing... and then 2 years came and went and we were nursing less, but it was still a good relationship... and 3 years came and went and we were nursing to sleep... and we weaned soon after that when I became PG and it just became too painful... but it certainly went on longer than I EVER anticipated!
As to why I set that date of a year? Well, I guess I just didn't know anyone who nursed beyond that when I first had my baby. I didn't realize that you could continue nursing beyond that point, if that makes any sense. Then, I got involved with LLL and found other women who were nursing toddlers and I read the book "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" and I realized it wasn't so "odd"...
I never had a set amount of time with my first, just a try-and-see attitude. She ended up having a lot of latch problems and we pumped exclusively, then gave that up by 3 months because of my own health problems. This time, I'm shooting for six months, which is pretty do-able since my son latches like a pro. Anything beyond six months I'm just not sure yet. I want to TTC again and if that's not happening as soon as I'd like we may wean, or if I do get pregnant, I don't want to nurse while pregnant. Just me personally. I never considered BFing beyond a year by any means - in my mind, breastfeeding and bottles are 'baby' things. I wouldn't dream of giving my three year old a bottle, and to me, breast is very similar. I don't condemn or look down on people who choose to breastfeed beyond a year, it's just not for me and my family.
I had a lot of issues at the beginning. So, my original goal was 4 months. I rationialized by saying I could start solids so she wouldn't get as much formula. Well, by 2.5 months, all of my issues went away. I made it to 4 months, and extended my goal to 6 months. Then, my goal got extended to a year. We just hit 1 year, so I am not sure what my goal is.
I want her to self wean, but I also don't want to go that much longer. Right now, we are down to basically naps and sleep. I am not sure when we will be done completely.
Initially I thought I would be heroic to make it to the six months mark, it was so painful for the first two months. Then it all became easy, so I saw no reason to stop. Also continued right through my second pregnancy. My daughter is two now, and I don't feel particularly comfortable with our nursing any more. Maybe this has to do with baby or maybe because she is such a distinct and articulate littlem personality now, it seems like an invasion of my privacy. Anyway, I restrict her nursing to once, or at the most twice a day, but it still feels as if I am just enduring it. I will not force her to wean, but I am kind of hoping that when I go back to work it will somehow naturally fade away. I would like to keep baby going till he is two at least and then see how I feel.
I don't know when I'll wean, but I plan to move BF into the closet by the time dd can speak in full sentences
I said a year with DS and BF till he was 14 months, I worked and way back then it was harder to do when you worked. With DD we weaned at 2 yo and although it wasn't my choice at the time it was the perfect time as it worked for us.
I never thought I would BF past 15-18 months and I remember one of my very first meetings the leader had a 23 month old and was still BF, I thought good for her, that isn't for me.. LOL how wrong I was, the great thing is that now DD, she is now 3 & remembers nursing and will nurse her babies. I hope I am planting the seed that she too will nurse her children someday.
I don't have an age set in mind. With our first baby, I wanted to make it at least a year & hoped that he would nurse for a lot longer. Our DS is now 19 months & still nurses quite often along with his 7 month old sister! We have done a lot of reading on extended breastfeeding & child-led weaning with the birth of our second child & feel that child-led weaning is what is best for our children. It's tough at times nursing two so often, plus our DD co-sleeps with us & nurses/suckles frequently during the night. (DS usually sleeps through the night in his crib, didn't know about co-sleeping when we had him. ) Yes, things go undone & except for showers , I don't have "time to myself". But the way I figure it is that I have the majority of the rest of my life to have time for myself & that these very few precious breastfeeding years are "once in a life time" w/ each child & will be over way too fast & I want to cherish every moment of them!