Okay, up late and reading some of the earlier messages. Here is my issue, and it has been one from the start. DS (almost 7 months) really only wants to be with me. Works now okay because I quit my job when he was 4 months old and dh had been with him for the first 4 months after maternity leave was up. While I was working it was a whole different story. DS would cry most of the day (high-needs baby) to the point where DH would call me upset at work begging me to come home. we used EBM while dh was home with him but had trouble getting him to accept the bottles from dh. This is STILL an issue 3 months later and it has really gotten in the way of all of our relationships. DH has started to resent bfing because he thinks that it made ds too reliant on me, he won't take ds except to play and has completely given up on feeding him or being the source of comfort unless it is a "life or death" situation. To the point where I actually get anxious being out of the house because I worry that DH will be upset by the time I get home. He is admittedly not a very patient person but loves ds sooo much. How can I help them bond when both seem so unwilling??? Oh, this is the 2nd child for me (I also have a 7 yr old dd) but first for dh.