My name is Amy and I'm new to the group. I have a happy, healthy 27 month old daughter who is still nursing. A lot. Sometimes I think she'd rather nurse than do anything else. She even gives a contented little "heh, heh" before she latches on, sometimes.
Theoretically, I'm very glad to see her still nursing - to keep her healthy and because it is such an important way that we have bonded. But I also feel ambivalent about it. Several of her friends in our attachment-parenting oriented playgroup have stopped nursing without much difficulty, or their interest in it appears to be flagging.
I think the main hesitation I have about it has to do with her independence from me in general. My husband and I have arranged our schedule so that we only put her in child care one day per week - most recently in a nanny share with a very loving child care provider and one other child - and she has had difficulty with it. She just has a hard time relaxing and enjoying herself when we aren't around. This nanny has had some health problems so we are currently seeking another arrangement, but finding a sitter for only one day per week has proven difficult! I think I'm wishing that my DD would bound out into the world confidently and that we would be able to put her in a traditonal day care center - there's a child care center down the street from me that will take children for one day per week for a reasonable price. But I couldn't imagine that that would be a successful experience for her anytime soon.
I know that I am talking about a child who is only 2 and 1/4 here - and I don't want to push her into being more independent that she feels ready to be. But I still have this ambivalence...When I was a child, I didn't have a strong, nurturant bond with my parents - could it be that I'm uncomfortable with seeing my child being so comfortable with her dependency needs?
So that's my story. Has anyone else had similar feelings? I'm curious, too, about what happens to children developmentally at this stage - when Gracie shifts from engaging more in parallel play to more interactive play, might she enjoy going to day care?