You know - i feel ya!
I finaly realized I was aiding it in some ways by not giving her to anyone - I mean, hundreds of bf babies have babysitters...lol.
I found her best time of day - and gave her to hubby then, gavce him a bottle and walked away.... and eventually they worked it out.
My main motivation for that? Well - I saw the look on his face when she would cry and cry and then stop when i took her back seconds later. He felt helpless and i knew it was time we figured soemthing out.
Your cleaning will hold - but your mental sanity might not. Use the DVDs she'll watch - those baby einstein ones are the only reason my familyhas clean clothes to wear..lol