Hi soon2bemomagain! Good for you for thinking about this subject ahead of time. There are a lot of hospital "policies" that don't exist for any good reason other than it's just the way things have always been done, and it's convenient for the staff. Here are some of the things that we did that were different from hospital policy:
The umbilical cord should be allowed to stop pulsing before it is clamped and cut. The baby gets a bit of extra blood that way.
The just-born healthy baby should go right up into Mom's arms and warm up skin-to-skin on her bare chest instead of all alone in a baby warmer.
The baby does not need to be weighed or measured or footprinted immediately after birth- it's not like those stats are going to change in an hour! The new family should be allowed to bond instead.
Eye-ointment can (and IMHO should) be delayed for an hour at least to allow the baby to experience the outside world with unblurred eyes. There's no decrease in effectiveness of the ointment if it is delayed. Also, adults who've had the eye ointment say it stings, which doesn't sound like a very nice experience for a newborn!
The baby does not need an immediate bath, or to go to the nursery for any non-medical reason. The baby should be with its parents for as long as they want. No-one should say "I'm taking the baby to the nursery now." Instead, you should always be asked if you want the baby to go to the nursery, and should be given a reason for why the baby would need to go. All routine health checks can be done in the room with the parents present.
No-one should give the baby a bottle or pacifier, as that can interfere with the budding breastfeeding relationship.
If you speak to your OB and the hospital staff ahead of time about your wishes, and give everyone a copy of your wishes in writing, they should be more open and flexible about doing what you want. I wish you luck for a good birth, a good stay in the hospital, and a good start to breastfeeding!