My daughter was born Jan. 5. When we left the hospital, she'd started nursing, and her weight was the same as her birth weight. When we went to the ped Friday, she'd lost down to 5 lbs. 5 oz. (She was 5 lb. 14 oz. at birth.) She's right on the border of being a preemie, so she's tiny. Anyway, we're concerned about the weight issue. I'm taking her back Monday to get weighed again, but I'm trying to decide what to do in the meantime.
1. Is fenugreek helpful? I've read it's safe, and I'm assuming that's true. I don't know if the problem is milk production or not.
2. I'd been nursing her on demand. We're not really routinized and have never put my son on a schedule. Of course, he's too independent to go for that anyway, but that's another story. My daughter wants to sleep all morning (from 6:30 until noon-ish). Then she wants to nurse a couple of times until 4 or 5 pm and then nurse almost constantly until midnight or so. My doctor said we can't do that because she's using up too much energy during the cluster feedings and not getting enough calories. I've been trying to wake her every 2 hours, but I'm not great with doing it consistently. Then she falls asleep while she's nursing if I had to wake her up. I'm not sure how to keep her awake. I've tried irritating her, undressing her, etc. I'm wondering if it's the early birth affecting her need to sleep because she's been much more active in the last 24 hours.
3. I put her in a sling Friday night and allowed her to nurse that way for a while. It seemed to work better, but I'm not sure how to manage that all the time. My son will be 2 next week, so he's pretty active. Plus, I had a c-section, so I can't hold her indefinitely. I'm open to any suggestions for how to make that easier or a sling that works well for nursing.
I'd appreciate any advice. I had to stop nursing my son because of the onset of very severe postpartum depression, and I've felt a lot of guilt over it. I'm trying to avoid that this time and give breastfeeding a try for longer than we did with my son. Oh, also, I did give her a bottle. She will drink it but doesn't like it. She seems to prefer breastfeeding, so I don't know what the problem is. I have very large breasts, and that was part of the problem with my son. I'm wondering if it is with her, too. They're just little babies.