First off, I have to say this site and forum is incredibly helpful!
I just gave birth to my 2nd son almost 3 weeks ago. He's been a champion nurser from the start, lached on great and everything. I am bound and determined to nurse a minimum of one year this time. My husband is proud of me since I have nursed through several difficulties with this one--cracked and blistered nipples, engorgement, plugged ducts (both breasts) and I have not given up yet. (most women we know stopped afer encountering problems like that)
I am, however, facing another difficulty with breastfeeding, and while I'm not ready to quit over it, I am dealing with quite a bit of self doubt, uncertainty and am losing confidence in my ability as a mother. That is how I have found my way here.
This is the situation I am in with my new son:
He typically nurses every 2-3 hours until lately...for the past few days, he's been giving me nursing cues (hand sucking, rooting, crying, etc.) within an hour, sometimes just minutes of eating. I have tried comforting him other ways, since it's so soon since he's eaten, like changing him, burping him some more, or just holding him, but in the end his screams win out and I wind up letting him have the breast. He falls asleep and rolls off it almost immediately, and when I wake him up and offer it to him, he clamps his mouth shut and continues to sleep. Once I'm sure he doesn't want anymore and can't be awoken, I will put him down in his 'nest' or bassinet, or daddy's arms, so that I can tend to my other child and housework. Within minutes, (sometimes a matter of seconds) of leaving my arms, he wakes up and starts to cry. Then we start the cycle all over again.
He sleeps with my husband and I at night (in the bed with us, I have a little 'nest' for him) and I have noticed that this behavior doesn't occur at night or when he is in bed with me. He will just nurse at his normal times and promptly go back to sleep.
My relatives are telling me that I have spoiled him, and my husband has suggested a couple of times that I just let him 'cry it out, and learn to comfort himself'.
I read several articles on this site, and I feel better about following my instincts and giving him the breast as often as he needs it, whether it be to eat or just to soothe. But, at the same time, I feel like I am neglecting my other child (who has special needs) and my housework (laundry and dishes don't do themselves) and I'm feeling inadequate. Not to mention that the few times I have tried to 'let him cry it out' it has driven me to tears.
Has anyone else been down this road? How long before they grow out of it? Any suggestions on how I can cope with this?
Any help or even just a good ear is appreciated.