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  1. #1
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    Jan 2007

    Default Frustrated

    Abby's still not gaining any weight. In fact, with that whole schedule of every 2 hours over the weekend she gained NOTHING.
    Every doctor or nurse I see suggests supplementing with formula. I'm dead set against it.. But I'm almost at the point where I'm willing.
    I thought about buying some last night, but the list of ingredients makes me just ill. I don't know what else to do to feed my daughter and I feel like a giant failure.
    I've been put on something called Domperidone which is supposed to increase milk by up to 25%. I started taking it last night and have noticed no results so far.. I just hope to god that she gains weight because I don't know how much more or this feeling like a failure I can take.
    My mom called to say that I don't need to be "supermommy" but I feel like I do. If I know something is not as good as something else, how can I in good conscience choose the worst option???

    So know now that if I do fail, and if I do give up.. That there is no way anyone can say I didn't try.
    I've been trying hard.

    Mommying is difficult.

    Sorry for the rant ladies. I'm just tired and feeling like I'm not a good enough mom.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Nov 2006

    Default Re: Frustrated

    Oh, mama, you sound like you need a big hug
    Yes, bfing is a LOT of HARD WORK for some of us. It took me a good 2 months of struggling with myself before I felt halfway comfortable with bfing. My lo is 3.5 months old now and there are still times I wonder if I'm doing it right!! You've got to stop being so hard on yourself
    The thing is not to compare what you're doing with what others are doing. Two of my best friends are bfing as well and nothing I was doing matches up with what they're doing.
    Just think of how good you will feel about yourself when you finally pull through this struggle and come out on top! You CAN do it! Give the medication a little more time and take your babe to bed and nurse all day/night. You'll make it! And sometimes mommying is hard, but it is also very rewarding too!!!

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Jan 2006

    Default Re: Frustrated

    do you have a local leader you can call?
    They are around to help other moms.
    how old is baby?
    Do you have a good pump? What are babies wet diapars like?
    There are all kind of other things you can too to increase supply.
    A leader could tell you more.
    sometimes babies just need a little bit of formula to grow stronger and then they can get back to nursing.
    Are your nipples sore?
    does the baby have any health problems or born early?
    some premies have a hard time learing how to nurse.
    Have you tied breast compressions?
    heres a link


    A few things to keep in mind when evaluating weight gain
    A 5-7% weight loss during the first 3-4 days after birth is normal. A 10% weight loss is sometimes considered normal, but this amount of weight loss is a sign that the breastfeeding needs to be evaluated. It's a good idea to have a routine weight check at 5 days (baby should be gaining rather than losing weight by day 5), so that any developing problems can be caught and remedied early.

    Baby should regain birth weight by 10 days to 2 weeks. If your baby lost a good bit of weight in the early days, or if your baby is sick or premature, it may take longer to regain birth weight. If baby does not regain birth weight by two weeks, this is a sign that the breastfeeding needs to be evaluated.

    Always figure weight gain from the lowest point rather than from baby's birth weight.

    Baby needs to be weighed on the same scale with the same amount of clothing (preferably naked) each time to get an accurate picture of weight gain. Different scales can give very different readings (I've personally seen a difference of a pound in two different scales); clothing or diapers can vary in weight and throw the numbers off. The scale should be zeroed before weighing, and baby should be centered on the scale tray. It's never a bad idea to do a second measurement (it should be close to the first) and then use an average of the two measurements. If your baby is very active or distressed, don't expect to get an accurate measurement. Babies grow in spurts rather than at a steady rate - to keep from needless worrying, it's generally best to weigh baby no more often than once a week

  4. #4
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    Jan 2007

    Default Re: Frustrated

    Abby is 3 weeks old as of yesterday. She's still only at 8 lbs, but her birth weight was 8 lbs 7 onz. Her lowest was 7 lbs 6 onz.
    I have an electric pump and I'm trying to pump every three hours, but I get 10 ml most of the time, which is fine for now. They've just told me to give her anything I pump straight away.
    My nipples are not sore, they were for the first week or so, but have felt fine since.
    She was born three weeks early according to her due date, but she wasn't small at all and had an awesome suck, latch, and her palate is great.
    I was doing breast compressions over the weekend and she seems to be able to empty the breast better when I do.

    I think that I just have to give it time, I'm just worrying because the health nurses seem to think that it's a problem.
    Everyone says the same thing when they look at her though, "Well, she doesn't LOOK small..."

    Thanks for the encouragement.

  5. #5
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    Nov 2006

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    you can do it!! you sound like a great mommy-er. :O) Don't feel like a bad mom... if you WERE, you would never have tried to breastfeed or you would have given up already and not cared. the fact that you want what's best for your daughter shows that you are a good mom!
    hang in there, i dont know your situation or what will come of it... maybe you will have to supplement a little in the end but think of how much milk you've already given her and how good that is for her! some is better than none, especially that colostrum. don't give up!
    Stefanie, momma to

    deacon james 09.22.06

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    Jan 2006

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