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Thread: Help! Will Going to work kill my already low milk supply??

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    Default Help! Will Going to work kill my already low milk supply??

    I am stressing out so bad. DH and I got in a huge fight the other day about me staying home with ds. Ds just turned six months and after months of trying to increase my supply I still must supplement with 18 ounces a day. I have tried everything to increase it, but I just cannot produce enough. I hav told DH several times that if I go to work, I fear the breastfeeding relationship will be over because it seems so many people have problems maintaining a supply when they are away from their lo's. I know that the number one thing to do is to provide shelter, clothing etc. for ds, but food is important too. Right now we get WIC for supplementing, but I am afraid that will not be for long since DH has gotten a new job since we signed up in July and we are due for recertification in a couple weeks. Logically there is no way out of this one, my DH is a good man, with a bad habit and his gambling addiction is essentially forcing me to get a job. He just blew all the rent money this week and we are in so much debt because of his addiction. I don't know what to do, I cried last night because I know that if I go to work, my low supply will more than likely become no supply.

    Any advice? Anyone with low supply still able to work outside the home and maintain their supply?

    Thanks,

    E

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    Default Re: Help! Will Going to work kill my already low milk supply??

    If you have to go back to work and there is no way around it, be sure to pump regularly and BF your baby as much as possible when you are together to keep your supply up.
    It doesn't sound like you really want to go back to work. I'm not sure what your job is, but maybe you would like to consider different employment or work-from-home options.
    Are you all doing anything to address your DH's addiction? That seems to be the root problem. Does your DH acknowledge that he has a problem?
    Sorry you are going through this!

    Molly

    Loving mama to JP (DS, 1/03 ~ nursed 6 mos), EL (DD1, 9/05 ~ nursed 4 yrs), EJ (DD2, 3/08 ~ nursed 3 yrs 9 mos), and
    JM (DD3, 6/12 ~ currently nursing), all born naturally
    Devoted wife to SAHD P, my hero
    A few of my favorite things that I've discovered on the forum: co-sleeping, baby-wearing, tandem nursing, baby-led solids, cloth diapering, APing, selective vaccination...the list goes on

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    Default Re: Help! Will Going to work kill my already low milk supply??

    Not if you are vigilant about pumping. Pump when you are dry, pump after you feed lo, pump at work as much as possible. You are capable! Lots of women do it! You might even find a pump on the forum for sale cheap if you don't already have one.
    There is a Gamblers Anonymous website:
    http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ that might provide your dh with some support. Of course the key thing is that you have to admit there is a prob before you ever get close to becoming willing to do anything about it.

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    Default Re: Help! Will Going to work kill my already low milk supply??

    Thanks for the support, i know that the problem is dh's addiction, and after this last slip up he said he wanted to get help, but of course he's said that in the past. He has blown so much money at the casino's that I know had he never started going we would already be buying our own house instead of renting. That is why dh wants me to work, so we can pay off debt and save up to buy a house. I want to buy a house too, but I don't want to get into something so serious as homeownership when he hasn't at least begun counselling. I am fairly frugal with money and try my best to stretch a dollar and then he will not show up after work and blow his whole check, I have told him that it is a slap in my face, I go and make a few extra bucks selling books on amazon and then he just throws money away. I know it is an addiction and I try to be supportive, but going to work I fear is only going to prove that he is controlling me. He wants me to work, I haven't had a permanent job in years, prior to ds being born I was a full time college student, and we had planned on me staying home with ds once he was born. I even sold my car when ds was two weeks in order to help pay the bills, but of course that money was gone fast because ds was not working fulltime then. I want to do something from home and dh is okay with that, it's just the matter of finding something that will generate at least 1000$ a month.

    Thanks

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