My almost 14 month old breast feeds all night. He sleeps in the same bed as me. So last night I tried to stop that. He woke up at 12 am wanting milk and cried for 1 or 2 hours. I tried to give him a bottle of water. He almost choked, threw up, and tried to hurt himself banging into the sides of the bed. He went to sleep finally and woke up several time in the night crying but only for 15 minutes. At 6am I gave him so breastmilk. After that I was too tired to get up and give him breakfast. So he breastfed almost all the time until 10am. It seems like he breastfeeds while he is sleeping. What can I do?
I've put up with the breastfeeding all night long because my husband is physically, mentally and emotionally abusive. My son has seen him very angry and hurting me. So I've moved around a lot. Between visiting my parents a couple times a year and from different nanny jobs, he's had a lot of instability. But now I'm starting a new nanny job that would be wonderful for my son. I want to keep it so I'm considering weaning and stopping him eating at night. I can barely function during the day because he breast feeds all night long. I need to keep this job so I won't be out on the streets and have to go back to my husband. When I'm a little more financially stable I'm going to divorce him. I'm only 21 years old, and people don't understand my situation. Why I want to be a live in nanny when I'm married. But I wouldn't get a job if people knew my situation. My husband isn't crazy. He isn't going to follow me. He wants me to leave. But people assume that abusive people stalk and follow their wives around thus endangering their children. I can't divorce him until I can provide for myself financially.
Now my son is too old and it is hard to break his bad habits. I need to sleep at night. I'm starting to give him soy milk during the day sometimes. He doesn't eat very much solid foods. I've tried everything. He's only in the 3rd percentile of weight. He would prefer to just drink milk. I have a week until I start my new job. I need him to sleep through the night by then.