i am mum to 9 month old levi. sometimes i think no one can possibly understand our situation, but there're a lot of moms out there, so who knows?
i am a single mom since day one. levi and i have always co-slept, and since i've never had any night relief do "what it takes" to get any amount of sleep. now, here i am with a little boy who suckles all night long. did i say *all*night*long*?! he's a good chunky monkey who bangs and flops and can scream with a shrill to break glass when he doesn't get his way. lately it's gotten worse. he'll nurse for 45 minutes essentially while asleep. when i pull away he loses it. i've had a couple of nights where i finally get up and go sleep on the couch, but after a couple of hours i give in and go back and let him nurse.
what's worse is that he will not sleep by himself for longer than about a half hour. that's right. i put him down in his crib, there's much wailing and finally sleep. half hour later he's crying. it has always been this way. he has never slept for 3 or 4 or more hours. never.
levi will not take a bottle, a sippy cup or a pacifier. he never really has. i keep trying with the pacifier and he just holds it and chews it.
he may be teething, but i don't think this is the primary cause of his problems. i have tried a dose of tylenol and it doesn't appear to have any effect.
i wonder if some of this may be related to separation anxiety... i work from home and if i pass through the room where he is with his babysitter i say hello and keep going and he starts bawling. this is new behavior. seems like he's much better when i don't make an appearance.
there really isn't another room for him to sleep in here, and as i said, i'm a single mom, so i don't have night time help. somehow i thought this would sort of work itself out a little, but it seems to be getting worse. i thought to hire a sleep consultant who has "worked wonders" for my friends, but cash is tight these days...
i was hoping to nurse until a year (he eats tons of solids), but am worried at this rate he'll never get off.