I feel your pain. My newborn is 9 days old too.... I am the human pacifier right now and feel the same... tired.. distraught..and just worn out.
My husband is a great team mate and coaches me on and I try and take every day at a time...I know how you feel.
My only advice is to take it one day at a time....they say it get's better and that this is the best thing for the baby.