My daughter is 22 months old and at daycare 5 days a week. We are nursing about 4 times during the evening, night and morning. We have been working on getting her to sleep without nursing. My husband cuddles with her until she falls asleep. That's been working ok. But when I get home from work, all she wants to do is nurse. She has ripped my shirts when I asked her to wait. Everything I've read about weaning seems to suggest that the other parent should step in for awhile to break the habit. I feel I'm abandoning her when I go to the other room so my husband can soothe her. She doesn't sleep through the night. I nurse her back to sleep, but there are times she'll nurse for over an hour or more. My husband complains that I should stop letting her nurse in the middle of the night. So I've asked him to take care of her. But she'll just wake up 30-45 minutes later. And we repeat this until he finally just brings her into bed with us and she screams and cries until I nurse her. During the morning we can often distract her, but the night nursing and right after work are the sessions I had hoped to drop first. To me these seem like the times she is most stressed and needs comfort. Any ideas on how I can still be giving her comfort without nursing? if I could I would hold her in my arms all the time, but I'd never see a vegetable if I left it to my husband to make dinner. I struggle to get a good night sleep and it hasn't helped my patience. I love nursing's powerful ability to calm so many troubles. But I feel the need to find alternative solutions.