My son turned 4 in December, and still nurses a lot. The days he goes to preschool it is about 3-4 times a day (morning, after school, mid-evening, and before bed). During the weekend it can be 4-6 times (morning, before nap, after nap, bed, and sometimes a few random times in there). I can sometimes put him off for a while, make him wait for nap/bedtime, or sometimes he will skip one of those all together (but not often). His sister (just turned 2) still nurses too, so if he sees her nursing, he wants in on it too. But my daughter has never been as obsessed with nursing as he is. He always nursed more than your average kid.
My question, I know it seems silly, but will he actually stop on his own? I know everyone says "he won't go to college nursing" and I know that. But seriously, it is SO important to him, and such a huge part of his routine I can't see him stopping anytime soon. I love the bonding, but as he gets older I am more uncomfortable with the preoccupation with nursing. He has slowly dropped from 6-8 sessions to 4-6, so I guess it is slowly decreasing.
I do limit the time if it's bothering me and give him 1-2 minutes, and other times I give him no time limits. Sometimes I delay a few hours. But he never forgets. I just can't see this ending anytime soon. I'm worried about explaining a 5, 6, 7, or 8 year old nursing as he makes friends, to family, or anyone else. Or having the conversation that we "don't talk about nursing with anyone but us" like it's a secret, and I don't think it should be. But lets be honest, not everyone understands a 6 or 7 year old nursing. And when i bring it up now, I get strange looks already.
On a side note, he's a VERY picky eater, and only eats about 20 foods. Could this be related at all? I can't imagine he gets that much milk from nursing anymore.