Hi Ladies, I'm new to this site and just looking for a little support/suggestions on weaning a very resistant 16 month old.
My little man wakes up anywhere between 3-8 times a night and will only go back to sleep if I go into his room and nurse him (I never nurse him until he is asleep in my arms). Up until now I have loved breastfeeding but I'm feeling a little frustrated because before he would wake up, nurse and be back to sleep within 5 minutes. NOW, he is up for 20 minutes + every waking and often won't even go back to sleep after we have nursed. Furthermore, I am not getting much support from my spouse in regards to breastfeeding a toddler as he thinks it is "wrong".
He has also, all of a sudden, decided he wants to nurse multiple times a day (5-10). Teething maybe but I feel like he is always teething lol.
I've tried the first few nights of Dr. Gordon's method by letting him only nurse for a couple minutes and then unlatching him and putting him back to bed. That worked ok. Once I got to the days where you completely eliminate breastfeeding, he just became hysterical and would not go back to sleep after 2 + hours. I broke down and couldn't do it. I just can't listen to him cry/scream for that long.
My husband works shift work and therefore does no night time parenting and as stated above doesn't support me breastfeeding anymore anyways but doesn't want to/can't help out with night time weaning so having someone else help is not an option.
I don't want weaning to be traumatic for my son, but I feel it is time for me to cut out night nursing. He has always slept in his own bed, he eats lots of solids throughout the day, won't drink any other liquid but water.
Any thoughts/support/suggestions would be so very much appreciated. Not really sure who else to talk to as most of my friends/family say "just let him cry" or "he is pretty old to be nursing" or most moms I know went cold turkey after 6 months. Thank you wonderful mommas!