My baby boy is 5 months old and I still feel like I am not breastfeeding him right. I nurse him day and night whenever he wants and still he has had two colds. I think the problem is that he will only nurse when he is hungry and not for comfort. He prefers to suck on his fingers for comfort. When he is eating he will rest his hand on his chin and as soon as he is done with me he will pop off and shove his fingers in until he falls asleep. I know that I am supposed to be "mothering via breastfeeding" and forming a bond and all that, but it doesn't seem to be happening. I feel like we are much more connected and engaged when we are playing or reading together rather than when I am feeding him. I am not a coldhearted person. I love my children with all my heart. I know I make mistakes, but I am trying so hard to be the right kind of mother for them. I did everything wrong with my daughter so it is very important for me to get my son off to a good start. I've read all the dr. sears books and attended the LLL meeting and built a support network and still I am not good enough. I feel like a failure as a mother.