Hi! This is my first post here. I'm really struggling with balancing nursing my 8.5 month old at home vs. solids and bottles at daycare, and I'm hoping to get some advice (thank you in advance!). We're starting a new daycare in a couple weeks so I have the opportunity to give them a schedule that hopefully works better for all of us, but I'm not totally sure what that is.
Here's what currently happens on a weekday (although it varies quite a bit still...I wish I could give you a better daily schedule but it's in flux. They just tried to change it up a bit yesterday so I'm not sure what that will mean!)
Nurse before daycare at 7:30 (he is there from 8:30-4:10)
3 5 oz bottles at daycare, every 2-3 hours
2 meals at daycare, usually 1-2 pouches or jars of baby food
Last bottle at daycare is between 2:30 and 3:45 or so, pickup at 4:10
Nurse once after daycare and before bed
Sometimes has solids for dinner (1/2-1 pouch), sometimes not
Nurse 1-2 times during the night (usually 1)
The reasons I'm not sure if this is working are that a) before adding solids he was sleeping through the night and now he's not, b) he nurses terribly after daycare and before bed, and now usually wakes up 2-3 hours after going to bed to nurse, so I know he's hungry from not eating well in the afternoon and c) it's frustrating when they feed him a 5 oz. bottle at 3:45 PM when I'd like to nurse him at 4:30 when I get home. At home eats every 3 hours or sometimes even a bit longer, although I have no idea how many ounces he's eating and he also naps much better at home than daycare, so that might play a role. His night schedule is about the same on the weekends, though, and he still doesn't nurse well in the afternoons or evenings. I'm ok with him waking up, but I just want to make sure he's getting enough food AND that eating too much (?) at daycare isn't affecting his afternoon/evening nursing.
My idea was to tell the new daycare to give him a bottle every 3 hours, which would mean he would get 2 bottles while he's there vs. the 3 he's getting now. I was thinking of upping them from 5 oz. to 6 oz (or just leaving it at 5 oz. and seeing how it goes). That would mean he's getting less ounces total but I was hoping then he would nurse better after daycare. I am just concerned about him being hungry since I don't have a clue how much he eats when he nurses every 3 hours. I guess another other option would be to decrease solids and hope he starts nursing better, although I've tried that on weekends with little success. The third option I just thought about would be trying to keep the bottles every 2-3 hours and decreasing the amount to 4 oz (or 5 oz first after 3 hrs, then 3 or 4 after 2 or 2.5 hrs, then 3 after 2 hours). I'm not sure if he'd be mad at the decrease, though!Any thoughts anyone might have are much appreciated!
Thank you so much!