Before the back story, what are other things I can do at normal nursing times to help calm her besides nursing? I'd prefer not to replace nursing with a bottle. She already has a lovey.
My goal was to make it to a year (we did!), and in the process, I've found that I enjoy nursing and my 15-month old daughter does too! However, I'm 9 weeks pregnant and feeling extremely tired. My last pregnancy I felt great except for tiredness the first trimester, but this time, I'm getting headaches and feeling tons nausea in addition to feeling tired nearly all of the time. I'm at the end of my rope.
Slowly, we've got it down to nursing first thing in the morning, right before nap and right before bed. (I'm a stay-at-home mom and DS is my first child.) A few weeks ago, we were still nursing random times in the day. But naturally, it seems, those have stopped using the "don't offer, don't refuse."
Now, as I've tried to cut back time nursing before nap, I've noticed that she wakes up from her nap crying and wants to nurse. (Even if she gets a full nap; today she slept almost 2.5 hours.) Today, I tried taking in a sippy cup with milk (after nap) and she had a huge break down. Crying so hard she was having trouble breathing, generally looked completely freak out, and trembling! I really tried to not give in knowing that by giving in she'll do the same thing next time until I give in ... but after 5-10 minutes, I couldn't handle it.
My OB would like me to have DS weaned by the end of my first trimester ... I realize that many women nurse during pregnancy; however, I would like to stop. It's hard for me to admit that since I do enjoy nursing. But I'm so tired that all I do is wait for naptime and bedtime ... I feel like there has to more to life than tiredness. While stopping nursing alone won't relieve this, I know it does take a toll on my body.
I read other posts about how you can't just take away something they love. I get that. I'm not sure she would understand me telling her we need to stop. But I can start trying that.
I'm just unsure how to about this without a tremendous amount of crying and angst ...
Thank you for any advice.