Re: Baby #2 nursing terribly!
Thanks again, Meg! The right side, which is a bit swollen still, is the more painful side. It doesn't seem to be swollen now, or at least not as much -- not as noticeable as last week. I would say it's not as swollen now, but when it gets scabbed up (say if he hasn't nursed on that side for 3-4 hours) it is a little bit hardened to a rounder shape and hurts more when he latches, even if I use a washcloth to soak it first. I try to limit pumping to once or twice a day -- usually at night when he's too frantic to latch him on so we give him a bottle. If he's too frantic, I get a bit trigger shy and can't bring myself to try to latch him on the right. He's gotten fairly good at latching on the left and I can usually shove a lot of breast in there. Doing it on the right is harder -- he either closes his mouth too fast, won't open it wide enough, struggles once he gets on, pops off, moves his head around to a shallow latch (meaning I have to start over) or a combination of those things, plus a flailing arm and kicking legs, and attempts to roll himself into a ball position.
I am trying the sandwiching on both sides. He is definitely getting milk on both sides. IBCLC has me taking fenugreek to get the flow faster on the right side, and I'm actually thinking it's causing a fast flow, because he keeps pulling his head back a bit on both sides (also not helping!). The initial pain is awful, but provided it subsides and he doesn't move around too much, it's not too bad -- I just have to use two hands to hold him on and stop him from jerking his head back.
I am trying to be patient and hope he'll get it, but I do feel guilty that he's been called every name in the book because I'm getting frustrated with being hurt with every latch and that he just won't "cooperate" (I say that realizing he's a newborn and can't help it, but he seems to be retaining the info a bit for the left side since he opens wider and latches more easily). Also, my sister is visiting and constantly criticizing that I've been on the couch nonstop, neglecting my toddler, that this is "a choice" and I don't have to do it, etc., so I just overall am feeling a bit overwhelmed and beat!
Mom to my sweet little "Pooper," born 10/12/11, and "Baby Brother," born 6/23/2014, and married to heavy metal husband. Working more than full-time, making healthy vegetarian meals for family, and trying to keep up with exercise routine.