Yes, I suspect I'm making a mountain out of a molehill! She's only eating solids once a day at dinner, and not even every day. He's always home for dinner. When we add a second "meal" (not sure when that'll be) he won't be there and so she can do it all herself. I like the idea of a smaller dish of food during dinner. I think I get upset watching all that food go into her mouth when I only intended for her to smear it around! By dinner time I'm also a little frazzled. But I'm sure he is too.
When do people add a second meal anyway? She's doing great on breastmilk.