I'm going away for a weekend when ds is 16 months in 2 months time. We co-sleep. I've left him overnight before with a family member and she co-slept with him but leading up to that we weaned him off night feeds to make it less traumatic. That time, it was easy to wean him off and only took two weeks. I had stopped feeding to sleep a month before, then I reduced how long I was feeding, then I offered water and when he wasn't feeding at all he snoozed with dh for three nights to make sure he'd be ok without me there.
Even though I've 2 months to prepare I can't seem to make any inroads into it now. It was so easy and tear-free last time I thought it would be again. In retrospect I should have continued on not feeding him at night and having him snooze with dh.
I tried Jay Gordon's technique; we started just not feeding him to sleep. I thought this would be easy as he doesn't get fed to sleep half the time anyway but he insisted this particular time and was very displeased when I fed him and left him awake. We were awake for three hours distracting him and trying to get him back asleep before I gave up. Last time we left him overnight I could arm family member with a bottle as a sure-fire way of pacifying him but now he refuses bottle. (As well as beaker, cup etc that he'd usually sip from during day)
I will be getting him to snooze with dh again but not sure how that'll go. Dh will be looking after him that weekend and he is very attached to dh and co-sleeps with him during the day but he's so determined to get boob at night now I don't really know what to do about it. Even when I'm not there, he still wants boob.
Any other suggestions for what I can do over the next two months? Although I'm worried about ds that weekend I'd like to wean him from night feeds for my own sake as well. I'd be happy to stop co-sleeping too but he doesn't seem ready for that.