This is my 12 week old daughter's first week in day care, and my first week back at work from maternity leave. When I took her Monday, I took 3 - 3 oz. bottles and a 1 oz. topper; DCP fed her 3 times, which was fine since she was there 6.5 hours. Tuesday I took the same, but was told that because of state regulations (it's a licensed, in-home day care), DCP would need to discard any uneaten portions... and since my daughter was only drinking about 1-1.5 oz. per feeding, she was worried it would be wasted; again, she fed her 3 times over a 6.5 hour period. Wednesday, I took 4 - 2 oz. bottles and 2 - 1 oz. toppers. DCP ended up using 2 of the 2 oz. bottles and both toppers, spread out over 3 feedings in the 8 hours she was there. When I picked her up Wednesday, the DCP said to go back to 3 - 3 oz. bottles; she'll work around the state regulations, but she's worried about having so many bottles in her fridge, especially since she has another infant starting soon.
So today, as requested, I took 3 - 3 oz. bottles. When I arrived to pick her up, DCP was beside herself to tell me that my daughter took 6 oz. today - she drank 2 bottles, 3 oz. per feeding! She fed her TWICE IN 8 HOURS. I nursed her at 7am, dropped her off at 8:30, and she didn't get another feeding until 11:30, and then another at 2:30.
My thought is that she should be doing small, frequent feedings. At 12 weeks, the only time my daughter should be going 4 hours without a feeding is at night... I want her fed the way she would be if she were at home: on cue, which just so happens to coincide with every 2 hours, at a maximum. Am I wrong to be concerned about this? I'm going back to the 2 oz. bottles, but I will send just the 4 bottles without any toppers. I'm going to take some frozen for her to store and have available next week...
The other red flag comment she keeps making is that here soon, you know, she'll start taking 3 oz. at every feeding. I keep reiterating to her that every baby is different, that breastfed babies don't always drink what is sent, tried to explain reverse-cycling and that I'm really not concerned about whether or not she drinks what I send with her. I gave her all the information on paced feeding, but I really don't think she *got* it. Or if she did, she's ignoring it. I think she doesn't have time... she has 5 other little ones to take care of, ranging in age from 10 months to 4 years. I just don't know what to do - I don't know if I should give it more time, or if I should start looking for alternative care, or what.