Re: Wean Preparation & Mixed Feelings
I'm going to start with a caveat: when it comes to nursing, only you can really say whether or not it's worth it to you to continue. We can't tell you what to do, and neither can your husband!
That being said, here's the way I see it: your baby is 8 months old. You have just 4 months to go until you reach the recommended minimum duration for breastfeeding. That's not much time, compared to the rest of your life and your baby's life. So for that reason alone, I would resign myself to 4 more months of nursing and pumping.
Another reason to continue to nurse is that formula may just replace one set of problems with another. You're up 4-5 times a night to nurse right now, and it's quite possible that nothing about your child's night-waking or need for nighttime calories would change if you switched to formula. You could easily end up 4-5 times a night to make and serve your child his bottles and that's a lot more exhausting than nursing because you actually have to mix, heat, and feed the bottle instead of just lying there nursing, letting your child do all the work. And if your partner is cold to the idea of formula, my guess is that he's not going to be the one who gets up to make and serve nighttime bottles.
Yet another reason to continue is daycare. Your LO will be going just 2 days a week but he's still going to get exposed to lots of new germs. As you start your new job, you probably want to be present as much as possible. Nursing will keep your baby healthier and lessen the duration of his illnesses, meaning fewer absences for you.
Now, if none of the above is incentive enough for you to continue EBF, remember that breastfeeding doesn't have to be all or nothing! You could always do combination feeding, in which you offer formula part of the time (e.g. during the workday, or dad gives a bottle while mom sleeps) but nurse at others Combination feeding can offer increased flexibility and many of the health benefits of breastfeeding.
If you decide to wean completely, go slow. Drop a single feeding, replace with formula, wait a few days. Once your supply has adjusted downwards, drop another feeding. Repeat the process until all unwanted feeding are gone. And until a year, you should only offer formula or breastmilk. Cow's milk is for >12 months.
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