Re: Weaning because of son's GI issues
15 ingredients? Yikes!
You say that when you slip up, your child pays the price. What does this mean, exactly? Does he get sick? Lose weight? Break out in eczema? The reason I ask is that it is very rare for a mom to have to limit herself so severely for such a long period of time. I'm wondering if, at this point, it might not be worthwhile to start adding some foods back into your diet and seeing if things change for your child. If you had some more freedom in your diet, or felt less responsible for your child's issues, maybe you would be able to handle the challenges of nursing better? If adding foods back in doesn't work- meaning that your child fares much worse after you add in more ingredients- well, maybe that provides you a clearer incentive to pursue weaning.
It's often very tough to wean a 14 month old. Babies that age generally aren't eating a lot of solids yet and they can be quite picky. And your child is potentially facing a very limited menu of solids to choose from. It's hard to predict whether or not he's ready to be on an all-solids diet. I'd recommend talking to a nutritionist, one recommended by your child's pediatrician, before pursuing weaning. At the very least, you need to know how to offer him a balanced diet of solids when the safe choices are so few. Does he need supplements? If so, which ones are the right ones?
Another reason weaning a young toddler can be tough is that they know what they want and they will fight for it. You could be facing a very sad, very anxious kid while you pursue weaning. How will you face negative toddler behaviors without nursing, which is your mommy superpower, the thing that can reliably get your child to sleep or ease him through a hurt, tired, or cranky moment?
Weaning do's and dont's:
- Don't vanish for the weekend. It could be traumatic for your child and might not even work- he might decide to pick up where he left off as soon as you are back!
- Don't use aversion tactics (e.g. making the breast scary or foul-tasting) as these can also be traumatic.
- Do go slow, because a slow weaning allows your milk supply to gradually decrease without increasing the risk of plugged ducts or mastitis.
- Do be extra loving, offering lots of love and cuddles to make up for what your child is missing at the breast.
- Do enlist substitute caregivers to give your child love and attention and to distract him when you do not want to nurse.
- Do avoid your customary nursing locations, as these can trigger a child to want to nurse.
- dO stay busy and out of the house as much as possible- most babies nurse less when out and about in new and interesting surroundings.
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