Re: Leaving 10 month old with grandparents for the night
Can you take your baby with you, maybe have grandma and grandpa come along on the trip? I think that when a mom's instincts are telling her that she and her baby are not ready for a separation, those instincts are worth listening to and accommodating.
Mama, what convinced you that nursing your baby to sleep was a bad habit? It sounds like you feel bad that you "created unhelpful sleep associations"- but you didn't! It's entirely normal for a baby to want to nurse to sleep and to need to nurse during the night. You didn't cause your child to be a kid who couldn't sleep without your help. That's just how babies are. All you did was respond to a normal sleeping/eating pattern in a normal way.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"